Best friend of 13 years is getting married this weekend. Upset at the fact im not maid oh honour but oh well, person who i hate is in that postition. now i know that she is going to rub it in my face, anyone have any good ideas how to overcome that? what to wear cause its not formal? should i even go?
2006-10-03 11:33:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
her whole reason for not having me as the maid of honour was because my ex said something rude to her...and i had no contact with him when he said that. My original plan is to go because the MOH doesnt want me there. other than the brides family ive known the bride the longest and she knows im upset about it. I know its not a competition and im only going for my best friend...
2006-10-03 12:09:26 · update #1
go be there for ur 13 year freindship and just tell the girl when she rubs u in the face say back the *** off ***** lol
2006-10-03 11:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by hawaiiangirl96797 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Kill her with kindness. If she's going to rub it in, let her...While she's doing it, everyone else will see what a hag she is, and what a wonderful person you are!
2) Wear something nice! You don't say where you are or what the weather will be like, but there are about a million variations on what you could wear. Anything besides jeans, shorts or a black or white outfit will do just fine!
3) Yes, you should go. Regardless of the fact that she didn't choose you to be in her wedding, she chose you as one of the guests (and considering the cost of weddings these days, that's no small thing!. If she's really your friend, she really wants you there, and I expect that you really want to be there for her. It's the right thing to do.
2006-10-03 11:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding, and be a bigger person than everyone else, and don't let anything bother you. Your not the maid of honor, so what, go, have a good time, if the bride feels bad, well that's her problem, she made the decision, you all have to live with it. As for the person rubbing it in your face, just remember, 'the world will unravel as it should'...meaning, if she's being a *****, carma will come back and hit her twice as hard..just let it go.
2006-10-03 15:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by LilMiSsDiVa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go. Be the bigger person with the person you dislike. When she opens her mouth to talk to you, gush over her--tell her how beautiful she looks, what a great job she did etc. Then walk away with a smug smile on your face--beat her to the punch and take all the wind out of her sails. She won't be able to rub anything in your face after that!!!!
Wear something nice, a casual dress or nice pants outfit. And have a good time!! Life is too short to be mad at your friend, help celebrate a happy day in her life!!
2006-10-03 11:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding for the sake of your friendship - you can sort out how important she is to you and vice versa later, but you can never take back missing her wedding.
As for the maid of honor, ignore her and avoid her. It really isn't that hard since she has her "duties" and there are a bunch of other guests.
What to wear what to wear? Make sure you are comfortable (weather considerations), but otherwise wear something that makes you feel fabulous! Don't try to outdo the bridal party and don't wear something that will draw attention to yourself, but a cute dress or dressyish outfit that you look good in and feel great in is just what you need!
2006-10-03 11:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, sticky tricky situation. I would ignore her... she obliviously needs to feel important so whatever! the main thing is that you are there for YOUR friend, not the silly maid of Honor. I would go if i was you, i understand that feelings are hurt, after all is your girlfriend.
I would wear a fun cocktail dress, one that's not to dressy but you look stunning in... just to show that brides maid up... after all she will be wearing some thing that all the other girls will be wearing. You'll be able to look good in (but don't out do the bride)
2006-10-03 11:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by girl_in707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely go, it is your best friend. Did you express your feelings to your best friend. I guess you are not in the wedding if you are looking for something to wear. I wouldn't ruin her week, but after her honeymoon you might want to talk to her to see where you both stand with each other. Have a great time at the wedding! Don't let the maid of honor piss you off.
2006-10-03 11:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go... don't wear the same color as the bridal party. Wear a simply classy evening dress and keep your cool. If you value your friendship with the bride, the maid of honor should not matter to you. If the maid of honor does approach you in a nasty/negative way... kill her nastiness with kindness. Smile, be pleasant and compliment... don't let the bit** get the best of YOU!
2006-10-03 12:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by smiley_140 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really going to hold this over her head?
She's the bride. You aren't. Although it may have seemed obvious that you would be the MOH, it wasn't what she wanted.
You can blame in on your ex, but the truth of you the matter is that you are important enough to be INVITED to her wedding.
Do you go? OF COURSE! Don't ruin your friendship over this. It's not worth it. What is it--one day? It's not going to determine anything other than your maturity.
2006-10-03 14:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you care about your friend who is getting married? Then go to her wedding to support her because you love her as a friend. If the other gal does rub it in your face, just leave it alone and have fun supporting your friend at the ceremony and reception. It's not supposed to be a competition. It's supposed to be someone's wedding! As far as clothing, I would wear a nice shirt, not a t-shirt, and a pair of khakis or plain nice slacks, no jeans. Go support your best friend!
2006-10-03 11:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by godprayzer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go. Don't feel bad i don't know you, but you might be fat or/and ugly and brides have to pick bridesmaid and MOH that are going to look attractive on their wedding day and in their wedding pictures that boyfriend thing was probably just and excuse.
2006-10-04 07:56:35 · answer #11 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋