ok so every1 knows i was raped 5 months ago....im keepin the baby and and i have everything set for the baby....im having a baby shower too when im 8 1/2 months. anwayz..the man who raped me is in prison....but now he says he wants to see my son when hes born and b a part of his life....i told him no. isaid i dont want anything to do with you ever again and i left. i said ill raise him by myself i dont need you....he asked what r WE gonna name him and i said WE arent naming him..i am and i left...i didnt give him my sons name because i didnt want him to try and find us later. and all of this was at our last court date so he could say his "last words"....i think i made the right choice....do you?
2006-10-03 11:09:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
im NOT giving up my son no matter what...and im gonna get a restraining order...as far as drama...ill go through hell for my son..and hes not even born....
2006-10-03 11:24:08 · update #1
and no i didnt know the man b4 the rape...
2006-10-03 11:24:46 · update #2
Go ahead and get a restraining order, if he tries to take you to court then go along with it. He'll never get your baby if he's a felon. You will get all rights to your baby.
2006-10-03 12:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I dont know where you live but in a lot of states in cases of rape where the father wants to see the child the mother can actually file a case against this to prevent him from doing so. The court 9 out of 10 tme grants her plea on the fact he has already proven he will do harm if given the chance. Also, unless he knows where you are for a fact when you have your child, it would be rather hard for him to find out when percisely you give birth. Aviod any further contact with him as well. That way he can not continue to try to interfere in your life. And one last thing, yes you are making the right choice in my opinion to keep your son. He is innocent, just a baby, nothing is his fault and I'm glad you realized that by chosing to keep him.And you already have the right instincts as a mother to keep him away from this man. Heres hoping you a very happy and peaceful life for you and your son. Blessed be!
2006-10-03 18:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer about petitioning the courts to terminate his parental rights. Even though he's a violent convicted felon, he may still have rights to the child although I think you'd have a pretty easy time arguing that he wouldn't make a fit parent.
Obviously you've made the right choice in not wanting this man to be a part of your son's life. Chances are he was just taunting you because he had the chance to do so. When actually faced with the prospect of having to pay child support, he may not want anything to do with either of you.
2006-10-03 18:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to go through this. As a victim of rape, I am not sure the predator has any rights. I would talk to the lawyer. It seems absurd for someone who raped you to think you are now in a relationship and he is now a father. I say stay as far away as possible from this person. Seek counseling yourself and parenting classes for a single mother and a mother who concieved out of rape. Good Luck to you~~
2006-10-03 19:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Barbarella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if he is the father he could get rights to the child even though it was out of rape. Even some murders still have rights to their child. It is something you are going to have to live with since you are keeping his child. Even when he gets out and does good he can still get rights to the child. I think you need to get a lawyer and go more deeply into this issue on what rights he has and doesn't.
Even if you get a restraining order if he does good he still gets right ti his child someone else might have to drop and pick the child up, but you can not stop him from seeing his child if he is good once he gets out. Sorry it's a fact, the only way they would take away the visitation is if he is unfit to be a father, just because he is a rapist doesn't mean he will be a bad father. Sorry it's reality.
2006-10-03 18:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt even have been polite enough to speak to the guy. He doesnt have ny rights to that child as far as I am concerned. I would make sure that when he gets out of prison, you get a restraining order against him. Did you know this guy prior to him raping you?
2006-10-03 18:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by nellieb_959 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he did this through a violent act you can have his parental rights removed if he trys to get them. A judge is not going to give this man rights to a child after hes proven to be a real threat. Of course you did the right thing. Keep your son away from him.
2006-10-03 19:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is WAYYYY too personal of a question and I think that opinion is not what you need. Im not sure, and I truly HOPE this isnt true, but he may very well have parental rights and If you truly dont want the drama, i suggest you talk to a legal advisor and find out what the deal is. This is exactly why abortion is legal my dear.
2006-10-03 18:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sticky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow, what a hard place to be in....yes if he raped you he shouldnt be acting like you planned this baby together or that you had a night of passion and well the baby is the result....if you have peace with what you have done then i say you made the right decision.
2006-10-03 18:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely...talk to your lawyer about him not ever having contact with you or the baby because the child is a product of rape, and you don't ever want to see the rapist again. Good for you of making something wonderful out of something so terrible.
2006-10-03 18:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋