Family custody, support - legal matters?
Hello! So I'm filing for custody and child supp. for my baby girl. I'm debating now if this is really the right thing to do. The daddy hasn't ever seen her and has always made excuses to her parties and stuff. The 1st time he saw her was at court today and he was non emotional, coldhearted, nonslagia and just walk by shugging her off. Who does that to their baby? Their own flesh and she looks so much like him. I'm in tears becuz I want to do whats right but i don't want to be the mean person in all this. It has nothing to do with me, him or our families - only the child. But why is this so emotionally hard? I really want to drop everything and not deal with him but i'm afriad my baby girl will lose if i do and of course I don't want that. :_( I just don't understand how someone can think a baby is such an inconvience and mistake they shug them off. She has never ever been turned away from anyone - until now and that was by her biological father! I haven't stopped crying!
2006-10-03 11:02:49 · 9 answers · asked by colette_2378 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would file for the custody and support if I were you. If he was that cold, and indifferent the first time he saw her, he probably wouldnt be all that fantastic for her to be around anyway. Maybe if he began showing an interest, supervised visitation? He may even want partial custody just to get out of paying you support. Definatly do what is best for your beautiful baby girl!
2006-10-03 11:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by nellieb_959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should file for child support in order to help you take care of our daughter. Concerning the father, I know you're heartbroken. Did he want to be a father to begin with? If not, then he's just putting distance between himself and his daughter so neither of them will become attached. It's sad, but it's a possibility. I'm not saying that it's right or wrong, but if he were forced into a situation he didn't want to be in, then I understand his response. It may be emotionally hard for you if you wanted a family life and /or relationship with this man, and it didn't happen. It's tough because you love your daughter and can't understand why he doesn't. For better or for worse, you and the father are coming into this situation from two completely different points of view. Focus on what's going to give your daughter the best possible life. If that includes child support, then fine.
2016-03-27 03:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters father has done the same. He knows she needs him since he was there the first 2 years of her life before he disappeared. He doesn't care. You can't make him care but you can create a good loving circle of people for your little baby girl. Get the child support and custody in place but remember you can't make him have a relationship with her. You can focus your attention fully on her rather then the situation.
2006-10-03 12:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing but my son's bio-dad has never seen him. I asked that he sign papers the would relinquish his paternal rights and he said "sue me", so i did. Now 1 DNA test later and 99.999% he is the father. Now the financial part is killing him. So sad!! If her bio dad does not know that he is missing the best thing that he will have ever done or contributed to in his life...his lost. He does not owe you, he owes his child and far be it for you to deny him the hardship of paying what he owes. You couldn't make a baby by yourself so why support one by your self. I would like to know how this story ends. Don't stop now because he could go on to make more babies that he just walk by shrugging. So dry your tears and show him what your made of.
2006-10-03 11:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by dee-dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to get over it, he has moved on and wants no part of the child you can't make him either. So if you absolutely want nothing to do with him have him sign his rights away you won't get support for her, or you cab get support but then he might want visitation with the child which can put her in more harm because he doesn't care for her. So you have to think what is best for the child.
2006-10-03 11:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go for the custody and the support .this is not about you i think he should support the Child he helped mark her why should you do it by yourself and maybe he might change his mind and want to see the child after the custody or maybe not but i think doing the custody will help you if the day comes around and he come and takes the child their is not a whole lot you can do but take him to court then this way he can't take her from you
2006-10-03 15:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by nicole s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men sometimes don't feel the same attachment to your baby as you do...after all all tehy do is donate the sperm...get full custody for yourself and nail his butt for as much child support as the state will allow. As for him being her Daddy...it sounds like she won't be losing out on much. I'm sure that your family can more than make up for that idiot.
2006-10-03 11:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was a sperm donor. look at it like that! YOU were the one that carried the child for 9 months and planned for her. it is obvious that a child is not part of his agenda at this point in his life. CONTINUE with the custody and child support hearing. you want CLEAR guidelines for the future in regards to visitation (which chances are great that he will never want) BUT CONTINUE for the sake of the child with this hearing.
look at it this way THE CHILD IS YOURS just give her all of the love you can. she doesn't NEED a father that doesn't NEED her! she is better off with just you! good luck to you and your little one
2006-10-03 11:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are asses. you can't change them, but you can do what is best for your child and get financial support.
2006-10-03 11:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋