Well here's to scoop: When I was a freshman in college I found the woman of my dreams, let's call her "Lauren", and we dated for the entire freshman year. However in the beginning of sophomore year she wanted to be "friends" and back off a little bit. She thought that I had too many other girlfriends, which was not true, but nevertheless what she thought. This was in 2002-2003. We still talk every few months because I did not want to lose a friend. Since then, I have dated different women but I have never opened up to them like I did with "Lauren" because the connection was not there. In other words, I feel lonely and the no amount of women can replace what Lauren and I had. I have other exes too and I am way over them, but for some reason she is still in my mind and heart all these years later. Will I ever find another woman like Lauren or did I blow it by being too much of a "player" in her eyes. Will she ever come back?
2006-10-03 10:58:45 · 13 answers · asked by DN1503 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you to everyone for your input!
2006-10-03 16:04:26 · update #1
Call her and invite her out for coffee. Talk to her, and see if that connection is still there, or it's just something you played up in your head. If it's still there, tell her how you feel. Either she'll feel the same, or you'll be right back where you started, but atleast you'll know and can stop wondering about it....either way, you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.
2006-10-03 11:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that time was what you both needed to figure out just how special your love for each other really is. You may not find anyone like her again, but then again, you may find someone better than her in the future.
You need to find out if you can still get along well as friends and then chat ot her about the possibility of giving things another go. However, if you do both end up together again, there need to be some ground rules, which may include you having to make sacrifices when it comes to amount of time you spend with other female friends. Would you be able to handle that in the longrun? This area should also make you wonder if this girl is really worth the effort when she may have trust issues to sort out for herself.
Whether you get back with her or not, don't live with any regrets. Take what you can from every experience and just work to improve on future relationships of all kinds with past, present and future friends!
2006-10-03 18:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you really a player? Women need to be able to trust the person that they are with, it is very important. If you really were a player and denied it or said that it was her making something out of nothing then you broke that trust. I doubt that you will ever get her back if this is the case. Trust is very hard to regain once lost. But if you really want to know then be honest with her about how you feel and about back then. You have more to gain than lose.
2006-10-03 18:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by ikciv04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may not get her bac cuz once she saw u as a player she felt that she can't trust u and she now wants nothing to do wit u on the relationship status it may take u a while but u need to get over her
if u try hard u may get another like Lauren but u just wont get Lauren
2006-10-03 18:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by A Luv 4 U 2 N V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love always comes back. However, I have been in your shoes and found that what I was longing for in that person was no longer there, too much time had passed. Love is an amazing thing ... it can do so many things to a person.
2006-10-03 18:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a heart-to-heart with "Lauren" and tell her how you feel. If she does not reciprocate your feelings, it's time to move on and give those other girls a chance - don't compare them all with "Lauren" (no reason to anymore - and besides they all have different qualities). Good Luck!
Resolvedly,
RT
2006-10-03 18:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you by experience..GIVE IT TIME!...if it was meant to be then things will get better...show her how different you are...make her see your serious side instead of your player side...let her now how you feel...cause u never know she can feel the same way towards you...TAKE A CHANCE!..but also take it slow...GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-03 18:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by He's my Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like a Wussy and Move On.
2006-10-03 18:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if your a player in there eyes too...why would she say that, attitude or what ? Work on that and if she or others like her see that you have grown up then yes...but not as long as you act like your the shi*
2006-10-03 18:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start all over like you just met. start courting her all over again. a date with flowers after wards and so on.
2006-10-03 18:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋