For the past couple of weeks, my son has been getting in trouble in school, talking while he is suposed to be doing classwork, hitting other kids, just generally getting in trouble everyday. We have tried taking away things he likes, having him do extra homework and what not, and nothing seems to be working. He is normally a very good child and if any of you have any advise aside form spanking him, I would appreciate it.
2006-10-03 10:55:45 · 17 answers · asked by OpalMine 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Since you mentioned he is normally very good..I would attend class with him for a day and watch for yourself how he is interacting with others. Noone knows your child better than you and you may be able help him through this transitional phase.
I have 3 boys...my youngest is also in kindergarten this year.
2006-10-03 18:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by jessified 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had the same problem. He was bored. We are waiting for results from the gifted program. In the mean time he knows his teacher and I are communicating via email about his behavior. He has 3 brothers so I told them when the 6 year old gets a good mark at school everyone gets ice cream-if he gets in trouble no one gets any. It has worked like charm. 21 days straight good marks. Up from our record of 2 days!! OK, so it's bribery but it's working.- we were doing every day. now we are doing every other and once it goes well a little longer we will back it down to once or twice a week.
2006-10-03 12:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm let me say welcome to the wonderful world of kindergarten. My oldest, who's now in 2nd grade went through this when she started kindergarten too. It lasted until about late Oct, early Nov. My oldest son is now in kindergarten and going through this stage too. GRRR Sometimes I wonder if he'll make it to 1rst grade.
Anyway, my only advice is to stay consistent with whatever consequences you opt to use. Remind him that he may see his friends at school act like this but it's not acceptable for him to do it and every time he does it he will get whatever the consequence is. This is what I do with my kids and believe it or not, I'm slowly starting to see a difference with my son.
Why they do this. .. I have no clue. I attribute it to the new experience of being in school, all the new/different attitudes, new emotions, needing to adjust to the new schedule etc. Kindergarten is a life changing event in a young kids life so it takes a while to adjust.
Also, I wouldn't be so quick to say ADD or ADHD. If a teacher mentions it or this behavior continues through to the middle of 1rst grade then ask the doctor's opinion and go from there. Honestly 5/6 is a bit too young to diagnose these disorders. HTH!
2006-10-03 15:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Camrnhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing this year and I tried the same things you are trying now, but eventually he admitted that he thought if he was bad at school that I wouldn't make him go back. He said he just wanted to be home with me, which is weird because he didn't stay with me during the day he was at the babysitters. I started giving him a sticker on a calender at home for everyday he was good, if he got 5 in a row then he got a prize, but I set a limit of 3 prizes. It worked and I haven't had trouble since.
2006-10-03 12:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chicklet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's usually well-behaved and this behaviour is very sudden then you need to find out if anything is bothering him. Sit him down and ask him gently if another child is bullying him or a teacher is picking on him or, God-forbid, someone is abusing him.
If everything is fine, maybe you and the kindergarten need to get together and decide how to proceed. Perhaps something like an awards chart can help, where he gets a star for every time he doesn something good and at the end of the week, you give him a prize.
2006-10-03 12:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is going on at school, maybe the children are being mean to him. Perhaps he is having a very difficult time adjusting to going to school. This happens sometimes. Make a reward system up for him, like a chart on the frig, and give him a sticker for every day that he is good without a behavior issue and after 5 stars or 10 stars what ever you feel, give him a treat, something special to him. Something small, like you will watch a move with him, his favorite dinner, a play date with friends, Try not to focus so much on the bad, give him options for being good, explain the chart to him, allow him to place his star on the chart and help you add them up. Just an idea. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-03 11:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd just ask him my 5 year old was doing the same thing not 2 weeks ago and I told him I would be proud if he would not get in trouble at school.I also made it a special thing for him everyday he does good hhe gets a star and if he gets 3 stars he gets to go to the park or gets to get a small toy or he can pick what we eat that night.It has reall helped.
2006-10-03 11:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by mary192837465@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter in kindergarten as well and I have been having the same problems with her. We always have alot of activities going on in our city that she wants to attend. She has been unable to attend and she is told why. This along with no television for a week was the most effective. Every child responds to new situations differently. Maybe this will work for your son.
2006-10-03 11:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be looking for that EXTRA attention...maybe reward the GOOD things he's done and see if he lets go of the hitting after a few praises?! My 5 yr old waits til he gets home then pounds on his little brother...JUST looking for attention...
2006-10-03 13:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider what his behavior is outside of school. Is this the only place he acts out. He could be bored. Kindergarten means school is a new idea for him, he is just adjusting. He might not be getting enough sleep, getting up for school earlier than he is used to.
2006-10-03 11:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by KR 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋