We dated for 1 year and 6 months, we have been broken up for 2 months. He broke up with me. He has two best friends who are girls. One is married and the other is not. I have never met the unmarried one. I'm flipping mad right now, cause I think he cheated on me with her. I feel so betrayed. I want to beat the **** out of him. HELP! I am heartbroken, he was my first Love. I thought we would have a life together, but he never trusted me to open up. I feel so broken.
2006-10-03 10:49:22 · 18 answers · asked by Crazy Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, there are two things to consider here.
First, he broke up with you. For whatever the reason, you must move on. If he finds that he made a mistake, well, it will be your choice. If it was me in that position with a woman (including the first love part), I don't think I would get back into a relationship with that person.
Second, you THINK he cheated on you. If you have no concrete proof, you have no basis for getting mad. You cannot even feel betrayed because of this. Your emotions are talking here (can't blame you for that because of how you feel toward him), but you must remember that emotions are not always rational. He has a problem with trust to begin with. He needs to work that out for himself. As for you, you will need time to heal, and you WILL heal from this.
If you find that you were mistaken about his cheating and you DID accuse him, I suggest you apologize. If he DID cheat, then it is best that you are no longer with him now. You don't need this in your life.
Either way, you don't need this in your life and there are plenty of other fish in the sea that won't give you problems! Just be open to it!
So to answer your question about "flipping out on him".... Don't waste your time. Contrary to what you may think, flipping out on him for something you "think" occurred will only make YOU look bad.... not him. Especially, if you found out that it was not true. Handle the situation with some class, not like you lost your mind. In the end, YOU will be the better for it.
2006-10-03 11:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should move on. I know it is easy for me to say...but I have been there. There is a reason why he is your ex-so think about that. I was really hurt by an ex when I found out 3 months after I broke up with him. But now I have found the man that I want to be with for the rest of my life. He is so much more than my ex could have ever been. Just take some time...it heals everything.
2006-10-03 10:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no proof that he cheated then you should not flip out on him, if you are broke up anyway what is the point? From the way you write you are obviously young, you will probably have your heart broken many more times before you find the one you will have a life with.
2006-10-03 10:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i trust thats its a spread of dishonest once you're doing something that you wouldnt desire your different 1/2 to be certain, listen, or examine... even if if it change into innocuous less than the impact of alcohol texts, the actual undeniable reality that she doesnt sense smooth adequate to share them with you'll make me abdomen turn too. My ex continually had an fairly strong excuse for emails and texts... there change into under no circumstances any actual data even if the actual undeniable reality that he would cover them from me.. is reason adequate to trust that i could not trust him. i'm the kinda lady who thinks its quite inappropiate to be texting and talking to exs that previous due at evening. they ought to respect you courting adequate to figure out you're imposing on own time along with your spouse, the occasional "whats up how have you ever been" i imagine is totally tremendous. yet even as your lady friend is leaving YOU and strolling remote from YOU to communicate secretly to some different person, and he or she doesnt see a situation with that? Thats a significant situation.. in view that youve wanting to forgive it than you opt to move on from that. Giving her yet another probability to fix the concern is an spectacular theory, yet supply her the great thing about the doubt that she's gonna do it precise this time. You cant carry resentment and produce it up each and every probability you get in case you've stated "lets initiate over". And if she F***s up this time, then you do not ignore that she's untrustworthy and its time to move on. you could loose the following... prepare her that you're trusting her to make it precise and be more beneficial ideal about. and if she fails, its on her... no longer you...
2016-10-16 03:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by hocking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between assuming he cheated on you and knowing he cheated on you. Don't flip out if you don't know the truth, it's where trust comes in. It's best to ask and make sure, ask where he was, and what he did. Ask him if he still likes you. I'm sorry. Good luck
2006-10-03 10:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are hurting but if he broke up with you then it's not cheating. He broke it off and now he's free to go where he wants.
If you think this happened while you were together that might be different, but by the same token you are aready apart. What's going to change?
2006-10-03 10:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were the to of u together when he "cheated" cuz if u weren't u have no reason to flip out but if he did it when u were 2gether flip out flip out on him like a crazy women den break up wit him if u r still wif him cuz he doesn't love u as much as he should that would b the reason y he cheated
2006-10-03 10:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by A Luv 4 U 2 N V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your EX. You have no right dealing with his personal matters. Sounds like you are still attached and getting into things that are none of your business. Leave the boy alone and let him destroy his life on his own.
He's your first love, but that doesn't mean much. Most 'first loves' are bullsh*t. Try to move on sweetie and I guarentee you'll grow up and find someone WAAAAAAAAYYYYY better for you.
2006-10-03 10:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been broken up for two months already.............and you are not 100% sure!!
It's done, let it be!! Time to move on............
There will be plenty of broken hearts in a high school girl's future!!!!!! Just the way life goes........
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-10-03 10:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex then I wouldn't worry about it. Like I kept telling myself, don't think about the past, only about the future and now I'm really happy with a wonderful guy.
2006-10-03 10:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋