I mean, they must have known they were gonna get divoriced. What the hell was the point? Why did they do it? Was it just that freakin' Kojak was a re-run that night. Damnit, they should have used birth control!
2006-10-03 10:36:46 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-10-03 10:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not that your anger is weird or strange. What's important is that you've chosen to nurture your hurt and resentment, and this choice has not made you happy. No, they probably DIDN'T know they were going to get divorced. But it turned out badly, as many marriages do. When you get older, you'll find out why it's so hard to find the right partner and cultivate a strong, loving marriage relationship. It's really hard, full of pitfalls. That's why so many people screw it up.
The smart money is to stop blaming your parents for the fact that your life didn't turn out to be ideal. I know you wanted that, but it just didn't turn out that way. Forgiving them means walking away from all that blame. It means accepting them as ordinary human beings, who are a mixture of strengths and weaknesses, just like everyone else. The truth is, they didn't DO THIS TO YOU. What happened was their relationship turned bad, and you were there to experience the adversity. So your choice is to move on and grow stronger...or to continue nurturing your hurt.
So what will it be?
2006-10-03 10:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not weird. But the real cause of your anger is something else I'm sure. Do some reflection and you might find that the cause of your resentment towards them might be something that happened early in your life.
Anger is not a bad thing, but it can be if left unchecked. IF you're pissed, lock you door, punch some pillows, do some screaming and swearing when there's no one around... Really let it go and release... Until you're huffing and puffing... Tired. Don't hurt yourself while doing that.
You'll find that after the anger is expressed, something else will emerge... Look at that... Because what emerges is what the anger is covering up.
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2006-10-03 10:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Allinone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! down boy, Take a deep breath....why does it matter if your parents divorce? Truly, if you have a good relationship with both of them then you will probably continue to have a good relationship with them. If you don't then you already don't have a relationship with them so what are you missing out on? Divorice is their problem. It has nothing to do with you. My parents are divoriced and it's been good for them.
2006-10-03 10:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by miss_nursie_nurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather your life hasn't turned out the way you'd hoped... and you want to blame your parents divorcing??? I would understand if you were 14 years old and confused... but I think you've lived enough years to know that not all relationships end up like fairy tales... and SH*T happens. The fact is: You are here.. make the best of it. You've heard the cliche... No one can change your life but YOU!
2006-10-03 10:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is sad that you feel this way. People don't usually plan on getting divorced when they are getting married either. My parents have been divorced for 17 years, they are better off not being together, but I never wish they didn't have me. Maybe you should talk to a counselor about this, it helps.
2006-10-03 10:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's weird that you would even think such nonsense. Mark my word that one day you will be sorry that you have made such comments. Your parents problem is not yours, it is something they have decided and each of them have come to a conclusion that they are not suited for each other. There are a lot of surprises in life young lady and one of these days when your old enough to realize what life is all about you'll see what I mean.
2006-10-03 10:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by AL 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see why you are angry, but there is a good side to every story. you will still be able to see both your parents, you are still loved. If they had used birth control, you wouldn't be here to enjoy life! Look around you, what do you see? If you are young, you have your whole life ahead of you to do many things!
2006-10-03 10:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird, but very sad that you feel like that. You are in this world now, so just drop the negative feelings and concentrate on making the best of your life. One day you may even thank them for being alive.
2006-10-03 10:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consider that your parents did not foresee a divorce. Now that you are here, it is up to you to determine your actions. Focus your energy on making a positive contribution to another. You may be amazed how much better life will be when you help another.
2006-10-03 10:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by david42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-loathing & Self-hating can be harmful.
If you're serious about being in this state of mind please seek professional help ASAP. No matter the cost, time, or effort, taking you out of this torment to get you to a place of self-acceptance is important. Here's what I read on the issue, and I'm scared for you.
2006-10-05 12:24:41 · answer #11 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋