Is it worth being nice to an elerly relative with Altzeimers? Will she remember to put me in her will?

Question

She used to beat her dog you know.

Answer 1

The thing to do now is to create a fictitious past, and thus gloss over notorious episodes, like when you wrapped her in brown paper and left her outside your local Oxfam back in 1989.

Do it at every opportunity, e.g:

'Here, Nan, tea. Tea made with water. Water, like the sea. Sea, like the shark-infested waters of Ganbaai, off the Western Cape of South Africa, where you had a bit too much sherry and fell off the boat into the jaws of a 19-ft Great White, and I had to nobly dive into the water, smear its throat with my last bottle of Astroglide, and yank you back out.'

For best effect, hide one arm inside your shirt.

Keep the Kleenex handy.

Answer 2

Probably not. If the will is changed when her Altzeimers is that bad, it may be contested on the grounds that she didn't really know what she was doing when she changed it.

If your only goal in befriending this relative is her money, then other relatives are sure to smell and rat and you'll end up with nothing anyway and your time will have been wasted after all.

Try forming a relationship with someone who has a good few years left. You may find you actually enjoy spending time with them and then potentially deserve being put in their will.

There's no denying that money comes in handy, but trying finding a worthy way of earning it - especially if it's to come from someone upon their death. The money will/should end up meaning a lot more to you if you know that someone has bestowed it to you because they want to give it to you, rather than have obtained it through dubious means.

I hope you enjoy my minor lesson in morals.

If not, spend as much time with this unfortunate relative as you can - spend so much time that they truly believe you want to be there for them rather than your own selfish goals. At least you'll have made their last days more exciting and they might well end up changing their will in your favour.......but you still might not end up with a penny at the end of the day due to reasons stated above.

Answer 3

you dont sound like a very nice person i just hope that altzeimers disease does not go to someone you really care about.Or it may happen to you in the future and someone will be nice to you to get in your will. Goodluck.

Answer 4

You should be nice to her whether she remembers y ou or not. Its too late now if she has Altzeinmers because the will will not be recognised by the probate office. ...."unsound mind" Money is not everything in this world remember that...it comes and goes.

Answer 5

Of course it's worth it, it doesn't matter if they will remember it or not, you be nice to people becauseyou know it's the right thing to do, not for what you get out of it...

Answer 6

she wont remember making the will at all...now's your chance to edit it, and get the old bat to sign it. She'll forget she did, and not tell anyone, of your scam...they just think she's mad anyway.
If ther'es anyone else with altzheimers in the family, get them to counter sign, as witness...the irony would be wonderful.

Answer 7

Maybe you could answer that yourself when you get Altzeimers, after all its possible !!!

Answer 8

you should be nice to her anyway, she's old and ill and could use a friend in her life. but lets be honest - she won't remember if you are nice or not, who you are anyway, whats a will, if she wrote one last year, last week or 5 minutes ago. Be nice to her she deserves it.

Answer 9

Just get her to sign the damn thing, and date it pre-Altzeimers.

Answer 10

Her will probably would have already been made. If not and you are put into the will it could be challenged due to her state of mind. Save your energy to crawl back into your hole.