About 20 years ago (yeah, I know, like, who cares?) a really great high school classmate that I "remet" in college broke up with me after only four months of blissful happiness (at least, _my_ blissful happiness) together. She was in graduate school and I was still an undergraduate (we're roughly the same age)--? Sexually, we had fun, or so I thought--? I didn't like to drink and she does (or did)--? She had her own money and I was still living off my parents--? But I thought everything was going all right and then, bang, I was just out of her life (she dropped me off in a parking lot and I had to walk home--I thought we were going out to dinner) like she could flip off a light switch. I'm not mad or anything, just jilted in a major way. I've just always been curious as to why? Maybe I'll always have to be?
2006-10-03 10:19:48 · 31 answers · asked by Mark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U R a loser
2006-10-03 10:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's never a "right" answer for questions like this because they depend so heavily on the situation and the emotions of the parties involved (and emotions are not good at being quantified).
My hunch is that the break-up probably had been coming for awhile, but maybe you missed the signals. I will elaborate.
Let me say, first of all, that this is just my opinion that I have created based off my own experiences and those of my friends and family. Feel free to ignore some or all of it.
I'm going to assume that your GF wasn't a raging bee-ach and ended things for a reason.
Theory One: You said you knew each other in high school. Maybe part of her attraction was her "high school" vision of you. And since none of us (hopefully) are still the people we were in high school, she ended things rather than lusting after a figure from the past and leading you on.
Theory Two: Perhaps she moved on to a different place in her life, where you didn't quite fit like you used to. You said that she was in Grad School and lived on her own, those could be factors in her decision.
Theory Three: Maybe she just wasn't attracted to you anymore. It happens (I've been on both ends of that one). Sometimes the sparks die and nothing can bring them back.
Since it happened so long ago I'm not sure if you remember events leading up to the breakup, but, if you can, see if you can recall any instances where she was more removed, aloof, distant. Those were your warning signs. When a girl retreats like that it's usually 'cause she's trying to figure out how she feels or is psyching herself up for the unpleasant and heart-wrenching task of breaking up with someone.
Anyways. If you're REALLY curious and it's keeping you up nights, you might consider dusting off her phone number and calling her (ever see "High Fidelity"? Like that...)
Good luck!
2006-10-03 17:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by laura_ghill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop even worrying about someone who would do this to you-hope You caught a ride home! She was being really mean to you unless you did something real mean to her! I had this happen with my x husband NOTICE_X I think you will not have to always want to know she may later have regretted what happened or she may have just been out for fun and did not care how you felt at all! Either way don't worry about it another day of your life!
2006-10-03 17:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not find out from mutual friends what became of her. If she is still single, give her a call and ask her for coffee. She may have turned into someone you may be glad walked away years ago.
Perhaps, however, she will be happy to see you and you can start anew.
Either way, it's a win for you!
Good luck!
2006-10-03 17:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one really knows except her. Why didn't you ask her? Maybe, since you were supposed to go out to dinner, she figured she might have to pay for dinner once again, so she decided to save a few bucks and get rid of the excess baggage you had turned out to be for her. Or maybe she found someone else
If i were you i'd try and find her, and ask.
2006-10-03 17:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the chemistry just ran out for her and that she saw no future in the relationship.
It is in the past now. Sad for you though that you are still pondering about it, I hope you have moved on and found a nicer person since then!
2006-10-03 17:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left my gf after a year. One day I left her house and never came back. We didn't have any problems or anything but, I was just done. I realized I had no feeling for her. Maybe it was the same thing that happened to you.
2006-10-03 17:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin RM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she's the only one that can answer your questions. But by the sound of it, anyone who can drop a person in that manner is rather cold and heartless. You're better off without her.
2006-10-03 17:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by PSmitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was driving you around and dropped you off in the parking lot and you had to walk home, then she must have taken you as a scrub.. Why didn't you pick her up? Get the point?
2006-10-03 17:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfeyen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe with graduate school, she didn't have time for a boyfriend. Sometimes us girls become too distracted with boys and the only way to concentrate on what we should is to get rid of the distraction (sorry for referring to you as a distraction).
2006-10-03 17:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably had to move on with her life after all she was in graduate and u were in undergrad. she probably felt that she was more mature than u
but i thing u need to let go of that and move on stop wonder about her and stop being CURIOUS
2006-10-03 17:25:03 · answer #11 · answered by A Luv 4 U 2 N V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋