I recently attended a wedding where the bride and groom had cake and then opened up the gifts in front of everyone at the reception. I thought it took forever and I got restless. Shouldn't the gifts be opened later on your own time or is it appropriate to do it then and there? I'm just wondering bc at my wedding reception I want it to be nice and enjoyable and most deff. not dragging. Thanks for your input!
2006-10-03 10:13:28 · 21 answers · asked by justwondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
cards, after the reception, before honeymoon.
gifts, after honeymoon (depending on time..if there is a day or two, then the day after the reception.
I've been at thousands of weddings (literally!)
and i've NEVER seen the gists get opened there. How tacky!
2006-10-03 14:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by LEMME ANSWER THAT! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the proper time to open it is either the day after the wedding or when you return from the honeymoon. I have seen it done both ways- and I would have to say I felt uncomfortable and bored waiting until they were finished opening the gifts. If you have a guest that is insistent on you opening theirs at that time, maybe you can do it off to the side and thank them at that time (still send a thank you card), but by no means are you obligated to open them in front of everyone.
We will not be opening ours until the next day, after the brunch with the few family members still in town.
2006-10-03 17:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have a gift opening and lunch the next day - either at the venue where the wedding was in a smaller room, or at one of the parents' homes. Gives a good chance for everyone to have one last visit in a more casual setting, and you get to see all the gifts.
2006-10-04 08:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we opened our gifts after the wedding and reception. actually we got home opened the gifts and an hour later were off on our honeymoon. we made sure we had a good list of who got us what so we could write thank you cards when we got back
2006-10-04 09:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At home!!! Never, Never open wedding gifts in front of guest. It takes way too long and If you get something you don't like or don't need, you won't have to open it for everyone to see that strange look on your face from getting five toasters!!! Leave the gifts for the next day!!!
2006-10-04 02:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by kayla21832004 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh yikes, please don't open your gifts at the reception! It's tacky and looks materialistic.
A nice time to open them is the day after the wedding at a cozy little brunch with just your very closest family / wedding party. Or wait til you come back from your honeymoon and make this a special evening to share with your spouse.
2006-10-03 18:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At my wedding we opened them at the dinner. Everyone else was bored and they ended up leaving after the first couple of dances. The hall was empty by 10:30, I think if possible then open the next morn. We didn't have that option because all the guests were from out of town... Not such a good plan
2006-10-03 17:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like that couple confused their reception with a shower! How awful.
Gifts are not even supposed to be taken to the reception! They should be shipped to the bride's home, or the couple's home, and the recipients should open each one as it arrives and send out thank you notes right away after each one.
2006-10-03 23:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a brunch the day after my wedding and invited the wedding party and close family. We opened the presents then. A lot of people were so happy they'd get a chance to meet people that they didn't really get to meet at the wedding.
2006-10-03 17:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you should open the ones you receive in the mail as soon as you get them so you can write a thank you note to send to the giver, letting them know you received their present. For the presents you receive at the wedding, you should open them the day after...it's silly to open them at the wedding...that's just boring and can be uncomfortable for some, if not all, of the guests.
That's how I plan on doing it at my wedding..
2006-10-03 17:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jules 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋