where can i meet a rich and "loving" man?

Question

I am in love with a man who earns 70% less than me. I am a banker and he is a...oh i am too embarssed to say what he does. am i evil?

okay he is a toilet roll sales man and i am a an investment banker!!!! how many of you would love a bog roll seller????????

Answer 1

a wee bit cold hearted!

Answer 2

The only way of getting beyond the money question is having enough. However, the banker is confusing two things, money and snobbery. She is in love, but finds the man not good enough socially and not rich enough which is not the same as e.g. a poor artist may be the toast of society. She is not evil, actually she is honest with herself as she sees the problem. Her solution, finding a rich man, may not be enough as he might be rich on non socially acceptable activities, like crime. There are special dating services for Sugar Daddies, perhaps that would be something to try out for our banker.

Answer 3

If she were a female bogroll seller,and she loved me,i would love her too-no matter what the earning capacity is between us-you are placing too much emphasis on money here,it is £££s and $$$s signs,when it is really the love and kindness of a partner,the trust,fidelity and companionship that matters more,not the paycheque at the end of the month.I can't say you are a gold digger as you earn pots of the stuff-but hey...money isn't everything,don't go putting a percentage on relationships like you do in a bank-truth be known,you already have that rich and loving man,you have no need to look elsewhere-think about it!!!

Answer 4

You're not evil or selfish or anything else.

You have probably worked very hard to get where you are and you have dreams and aspirations.

Sometimes though we change our dreams as we progress through life as we find out what works and does not work for us.

We also change our value set, I think you're at a crossroads and you may or may not choose to change your value set.

You need to work out what's important for you, we are all different and see if you can live with this guy you love. If you can be good to get your integrity in around accepting him for everything he is and does. However we can't always live with somebody that we love.

Last year I split from someone because my life was going backwards in terms of my achievements. I was failing at things that before I would have taken in my stride, I loved her very much but I couldn't live with her chaotic lifestyle, it's just not what I wanted for my life. I have less friction when I'm with a similar personality type.

Often different personality types can really get on, one person likes talking and the other is very good at listening for instance,

You are probably a high achiever, you may be after a good time which he just gives you as he's fun etc, we just can't tell from what you say but does he understand you ?Are you compatible now and in the future ? Does he give you something that you need now but may not need in the future ? Do you think you will both grow and be happy in your life together ?

If the answers are no this guy doesn't work, go and live your dream.

If yes he's just fine, well rework your new dream and aspirations, with him in it and cast away the old one.

Good luck

Answer 5

Mmmmm, you state, and I quote from your text, ' I am in love ' and then go on to state, ' with a man who earns 70% less than me ' you say 'I am a banker', Not sure you have spelled that correctly !!!! The words, Love, followed by such a shallow, self concerned, opinion, tell us all more than you will ever be able to understand. Way to go girl, you sure can reach the parts no-one else can, maybe the guy you are ' In love ' with , is richer than you, not in financial terms, but in the ability to see where gold -diggers come from. Hope he makes a hasty ' withdrawl ' ( that was a banking term, in case you don't see any allusion to real life. ) PS, what is the going rate for a heart, these days ?

Answer 6

It's a bit telling that you put the rich part before love in your question.

be sure of what you are looking for. If you are in love with somebody - no matter what he does or what he earns, then do not underestimate the value of that. We have a friend who is married to a rich guy - and she is miserable. He is a controlling mysoginist who values nothing more than money and whats in it for him.

True love and happiness is priceless and you are a rich person indeed if you can find that.

Answer 7

Step outside your normal envelope. My wife is a banker and makes more than I do but I don't let it bother me. Life is about more than the money; how about just living to be living? Not everything is judged by or based on the old filthy lucre. My daughters borrow all my money and never pay me back; the wife is smarter; she tells them to ask their father. I do income tax preparation for relaxation so you know I must be nuts. Have a good life and unwind.

Answer 8

You need to value yourself more! Work on your own self 'not material' worth. How can you say you love a man and in the same sentence put him down? Hope he gets away from you fast before you break his heart. You need to stop looking for a rich man and only then will the treasures your heart desires will be found.

Answer 9

lmao oh no your a banker... you earn way to much to go out with anyone else... your too high on the social ladder.... omg didnt you know that theirs only a few possible selections for a banker... a king a prince a wanker that doesnt notice how shallow and immature you are... oh looks like you found one of them eh... but beware this type usually wakes up

Answer 10

HAHA. sorry that's just funny..toilet roll sales man!
Ok maybe it is evil of u and of me cause im laughing at his profession.....but it is kinda funny and embarrasing.
I wud be embarassed but I guess maybe we shud be less superficial? I don't think I am superficial but I'd be embarassed with that one.
Can't tell u what to do just follow ur heart I guess. and make sure ur not leading him on you know. U wouldn't want it done to you.

Answer 11

No, you are not a evil, you do not know what love is all about, that is all.
Where can you meet a rich dude? Hang out where they hang out.
Try for your self what that life is all about and then ask the question again...