2006-10-03 10:08:22 · 23 answers · asked by Mrs..Yahoo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can't wait for the divorce!
2006-10-03 10:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who knows, it might work, but I highly doubt it. You could bring up the arguement that 75 years ago, that was common, and it worked back then, but 19 and 16 year olds are very different life skill wise today from back then. I know you don't think it, but being 18 was pretty cool, and I can't imagine it being the same if I had been married, think about what the 16 yr old would be missin out on! I don't think you should till you don't have to get parental consent!
It's also not really a marriage if mom and dad still pay your bills, keep that in mind.....
2006-10-03 12:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont. by no means are they ready to be married, no matter what they may feel at this time. If they truly want to get married, I say they should remain partners until they are at least 23 or 24. by that time you would have had time to finish high school, get a few years of college under your belt and had a chance to enjoy life. Once you hit legal age, and are exposed to new things, you may find that what is the world to you right now may not be as big then.
I am not saying that those two may not love each other, or it may not work out, but you should give yourself a chance to grow up and experience life before settling down. And once they do decide to marry, let it be when they are mentally, physiccaly and spiritually ready to take on the responsibilities of marriage and everything it entails.
2006-10-03 10:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bad idea. I got married at 23 almost 24, and I was too young! A person grows and changes a lot between 15 and 25. I don't believe in divorce but I can easily see why so many young couples end up divorced. If the love is strong and true it will last until you are 26. And if you are afraid it won't.... then I guess you know the answer after all don't you?
2006-10-03 10:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by princessPixie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Almost a sure bet the marriage would not last and would be regretted for the rest of their lives.
It is difficult at a young age to distinguish passion from true, committed love. Most people under the age of 21 - 25 lack the emotional maturity, wisdom and honest ability to commit. At age 19, most people still do not know who they are and what things in life are most important to them - and this is even more so for a 16 year old. It would not be long before both people in such a marriage would begin to wonder about things they missed, other people they could have dated, etc. Most likely they will regret the opportunities & freedom they gave up so early in life and start feeling cheated - and will blame their partner in no small way.
The things I learned between the ages of 18 and 25 were the most important things I learned in my life. I would never encourage someone to be trying to sustain a marriage at that time in their life.
2006-10-03 10:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Xeod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them both together, and have a serious adult conversation, and say to them, I will agree to you getting married only if you can give me a serious answer. Ask them, Why do you have to get married? Before they can give you an answer, say that loving each other isn't enough to get married. If they can give you a better answer, which i doubt it very much, they might say, we like each other, just say, well liking each other isn't a good enough reason to get married. Don't give them any answers or any reasons to get married, make them do the thinking. The 19 year old boy is old enough to do as he pleases. Can he support the 16 year old? Can he rent a property for them to live? I believe the 16 year old girl is far too young. If the daughter is yours, then question the boy, Does he have a job? Has he got his own place to live? If the answer is no to all, then say...well i think you should do all this before i give you permission to marry my daughter.
Hope this helps
2006-10-03 10:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by johnnymifo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While the feelings may be real, it would be wise to wait and allow the two to grow as individuals away from school and home and be certain that those individuals can work harmoniously as a couple many years down the road. After the girl has "come of age," and has experienced life as a woman living on her own, she will have a better indication of the life she wants to lead, and not be placed into a traditional role that may leave her without some options later.
2006-10-03 10:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by redheadeddoll76 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
too young for the 19 yr.old and definitely way too young for the 16 yr. old, my God you haven't even been out there long enough to enjoy life and you want to marry. By the time your in your 20's you'll want out because you won't be able to do the things that your friends are doing and you'll feel like you are missing out on life and you will be. Then if you get tied down with a kid it will make it even harder, maybe not too much for the guy, but for the girl who has to stay home and take care of the child while daddy is probably out with his friends. Love is great but when it wears off it could be ugly. Take your time, stay in school and go out there and have some fun with your friends, you have plenty of time for marriage later on and maybe by then you won't even want to any more.
2006-10-03 10:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ridiculus. If they think they're in love and want to make a lifetime commitment to each other, then fine. Make one, but don't do it officially. People change as they age and they don't always change in the same ways. If they're really in love and it really will last all their lives, then dating for a few more years before getting married will only change their anniversary. At least wait until they're both adults.
2006-10-03 15:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too young. The 19 year old should probably wait too. I can't say much tho. I married a 36 year old when I turned 18. Good luck.
Still married after two years.
BUT, wait a few years. You will be all the happier for it. Live life and enjoy it.
2006-10-03 10:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I almost got married when i was 18, instead i decided that it was best for us to wait until i got done with college. Good thing i did, we broke up the next year bc he was abusive. The thing is you need to wait and make sure that things are going to go as planned. Make sure you both have steady income not some dead end job. You need to be finacially secure before you make such a big life decision. Bisides her parents will have to agree bc they have to sign for her to married. She's underage. Please just wait until she atleast gets out of high school things are different then bc she's got alot of free time on her hands.
2006-10-03 10:15:12 · answer #11 · answered by gardener24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋