Custodial step mom to what feels like a dozen of Ur husband’s children from his prior marriage. Wife. no bio kids. They r ages 8-20. U beg husband do counseling (couples and/or family) to no avail. He's always said he “can’t do anything about their behavior”, provides no discipline, no support to U just says “handle it & stop bugging me!” Last wk the 8 yro girl won't to do anything for 2 days (no homework, no cleaning up, and eating candy 4 dinner) & the father does NOTHING. Fed up U tell her to go to her room & no tv/net coming out of room (other than school/eating/snacks) 4 two days. She gives U the silent treatment for those days & continues now after the punishment. U say __pls pass the salt to her & U r ignored. She encourages her brothers to do same. It works a bit. They are icy 2 U now. Dad's OK w/all this says (she'll come around). Tells boys 14/16 that they “HAVE 2 help her w/her homework since she's not talking to" me (?!). It all seems sick & dysfunctional. Your input?
2006-10-03 10:06:23 · 10 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Can you say Divorce!
2006-10-03 10:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What went wrong...they think they can treat you anyway they want BUT you have a 'familly meeting" .Tell the kids the truth (they know) about dad not wanting to care for them.That the burden is on you-and you have had enough of the ingrates.Tell the 8 yr old to eat veggies no more 'junk' food in the house.Have a poster with the kids names and what they are expected to do in YOUR house,if they don't go all with that ,tell them the other choice..go back where they came from.Dad with can go with them.Make rules and stand by them.
2006-10-03 10:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepchildren do not recognize your authority and your husband won't help. If he refuses to go to counselling, you can go by yourself if only just to talk it over with someone.
Treat all the children equally and be consistent with the household rules. If they won't listen you can't force them, they are old enough to deal with the consequences of their actions.
2006-10-03 10:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PACK YOUR BAG if its not your own home divorce the gutless husband seem he only used you for visas there more to life then to submit yourself to rotten discipline less brats it will only get worse if they are in US less the 2 yrs contact ICE withdraw your petition
2006-10-03 18:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would withdraw my sponsorship for the kids and than kick his dumb azz to the curb. Problem solved, next question.
2006-10-03 10:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by rikv77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of them, it's not your problem. He never wanted you only what you can do for him. Somewhere inside you already know this and you already know the answer as to what you should do. Do it.
2006-10-03 10:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Aliayh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like your hubby is ok with their attitude...which means he is not supportive of you. might as well leave the whole god forsaken family for your own good...actually chase them out with his brats!!
2006-10-03 10:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by TANNY P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick all their sorry asses out of your house and divorce that foreign husband that expects you to raise HIS kids.
2006-10-03 10:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's what you get... no sympathy from me!
2006-10-03 10:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋