if a kid hits my child at the park, and their parent doesnt do anything, what do i do??

Question

I was at the park today-- my son is 2 1/2, this other kid (same age) hit him. his mom would say 'no hitting' but the kid kept on hitting my son and other kids. I had my son come sit with me for a while, and when he went back out, the kid hit him again. after a few more times, his mom put him in time out. all she said is "dont do that" and she had in the stroller for like 20 minutes......

thats NOT hot to give a time out!!! you have to say "DO NOT HIT" and put them in there for about 5 minutes.... after 5 minutes, they will pretty much forget why they're there, and they'll find a way to amuse themselves......

I want to talk to the kid myself, but I know it's not my place. besides tattle on the obvious, what can i do??

btw-- i know "they're only two"......dont give me that.

*she had put him in thes stroller.

my son knows not to hit other chilren. i follow through with my time-out's....

Answer 1

"Terrible Twos" or not, they need to be taught at a young age not to hit, bite etc...If the parent doesn't correct the child. by all means you step in and take control....Of course you can't hit the child, but let the mom know how you feel...Good luck!

Answer 2

It is hard to see how others raise there kids when they are not doing what they should be. It is not right that this other mom putting her kid in time out for 20 minutes.... That is not away to get through to a 2 1/2 year old.
My thoughts are a couple things. If you know this mom then I would possibly talk with her if her son continues. If you don't know them, it's something you probably can't say to much with out offending them. Which you know. The best thing is letting your son know that he can stand up for himself as in telling him to tell this kid not to hit that it hurts him. Some times kids don't know they are hurting someone. It all depends which is difficult.
I hope your son is okay and I hope that things will pass. I'm sorry I'm not more of a help but hopefully this gives you some answer.
Please feel free to ask me anything else.

Answer 3

Maybe I am a bad person to ask, but as a mother and Girl Scout leader I am pretty used to disciplining other people's kids.

I think what you did was good, but I would have spoken to the child too. Just looked him in the eye and said "No hitting."

I would be all over my kids if they were hurting others. If the 1st time out (2-3 minutes) didn't work, we would leave. I can't stand it when people don't correct their children. He obviously didn't worry about his mother because she didn't back up what she said.

You're right- I know you know that 2 yr olds hit sometimes, they don't have their words yet. But the problem is with the mother and her lacksidaisical parenting style!

Answer 4

If it happens again, go up to the parent of the child and ask them nicely to remove there child from where your child is playing. I've had this happen before and I may have acted incorrectly but I scolded the child myself and pissed off the parent. I didn't touch them or anything, I just said in a very stern voice bad boy no hitting thats not nice. The kid didn't hit my son anymore, but like I said the parent was none too happy and left the park. Either way mission accomplished!

Answer 5

I. a time out is meant to help the offending child gain control of their behavior, and is only as good for about a minute for each year of age.
2. all kids will hit at some point, however, as the parent of the child being hit, I would have told the parent after the first time, told the parent again after each time and stood between my child and the offending child until the child stopped.
3. this is a great time to teach your child to be assertive by teaching your child to yell "Don't hit me" or some similiar phrase.
4. As a last resort, contact the police or even DCFS, the child is not being appropriately supervised.

Answer 6

Well my son is almost 2. I think that it has to do with the parents. Her son knew she was just threatening so he didnt care. She should have gave him a warning and then got down to his eve level and told him that hitting hurts and if he does it again they are going home or on time out. Also, like you said they are only two and its definatly teh terrible twos, they are testing you all day everyday. If it was me and if I was by my son when the child hit him I would have said to the boy that hitting wasnt nice and we dont hit on the playground. If he continued to hit i would have taken my son elsewhere for the time being or to another part of the playground and ignored the boy all together. If it is a playdate date simply tell the mother that you dont want your son to learn hitting from her son and that you know how ard it is to disipline a 2 year old. Find another mom who you can feel comfortable telling her what is ok and not ok around your son and vice verca

Answer 7

I would go sit by your son while hes playing and just keep an eye on it. It isnt your place to really disclipine their child, nor scold there mother. You do have the right to say gently no hitting to their child. I wouldnt get too stressed out about it. I have had to sit down with my son when he was being hit and tell someone elses child no hitting. I have also had my son be the aggressor and hit someone elses child. This stuff does happen. Try to remain clam and if need be sit right beside your child if the behaviour continues. Everyone has their parenting techniques, and I think too many times alot of us are way to judgmental towards eachother.

Answer 8

You should say to the child, "Don't hit" in a stern voice. He might respond better to a stranger saying it than his mommy. If the mother has a problem with it, tell her if she can't control her child and keep him from hitting your child, you will. Maybe the kid will get so upset at being scared by you that he'll bawl and she take him home. I totally agree on the "they're only two". That is RIDICULOUS. You teach them all kinds of other things at two, they can learn you don't hit by two. This sounds really b*tchy, but I'm sick of mean little kids. I have a really nice little boy and would love for him to find some other nice kids to play with, but so far, we haven't had any luck. Good Luck to you....

Answer 9

I'd step up and tell the other kid to have a time out. It is your place because your kid is the one being hit and it's not okay. No matter how old they are. And if the other mother had a problem with it then she can take her kid and get out of dodge- there's no need for that. She should be disciplining her own child and I'd tell her so.

Answer 10

So she would not determine suitable, in accordance to you.... She did do some thing nonetheless. I wager if we've been given 30 mothers to video show you determine all day long, they might discover issues which you do incorrect too. What you do for timeout would desire to not additionally be the superb element of do for timeout, in simple terms considering the fact which you assert so would not make it so. there is not something you're able to do, and there is not something you will desire to do. I also have a question nonetheless: after the youngster got here off the stroller, did he hit your son back? If he did, then you definately would desire to ingredient that out to the mum, yet whilst not, then her technique *did paintings, did not it?? the different element is, until eventually this individual is your pal (which it would not sound like), then you definately rather do not understand what's occurring. according to probability that's not oftentimes how she does timeout, yet her husband in simple terms died, and she or he's basically slightly preoccupied. according to probability her son has ADHD or autism (hitting isn't a demonstration of that on it rather is very own, even nonetheless it rather is a demonstration accompanied with different behaviour) and it rather is how she became into instructed to handle it. according to probability she placed him in timeout for 5 minutes, and then he chosen to stay there. or according to probability, she in simple terms has a various parenting form to you. you're actually not a parenting expert, so who're you to dole out advice to human beings?

Answer 11

Whenever a child is hitting my children and the parent isn't addressing the situation, I always jump in and say "No hitting." That usually gets the parents attention. I work in childcare and do not put up with other children hitting mine. Some parents out there are lazy or afraid to discipline around everybody and if the children are quite young especially around 2, you need to step in and protect. You have to be really assertive and as they get older, it becomes more intense. Good luck.