When I got married I heard a lot of people say things like:
"Marriage will ruin your life"
"Do you really want to be with just one person forever?"
"Everyone ends up divorced so why bother?"
I don't regret marrying, I am happier now than I have ever been!
People also bash children by saying:
"Children will just ruin your marriage, you wont have any time together!"
"Children just cause to much stress on a marriage!"
"Do you really want to give up all your freedom for 18 years?"
"You can forget about doing having any time to yourself ever again!"
We plan to start a family anyways, we still believe in love and children!
Why are so many people negative about the most wonderful things in this world like marriage and children????
2006-10-03 10:02:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm not negative about marriage and children, but simply don't think that you need either of them to be truly happy.
2006-10-03 10:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by solarius 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's only because they have experience the bad part of the whole marriage and children thing. Marriage is great with children it show a since of family togetherness I think. But i also be leave that you can have a healthy loving and caring relationship with children and not marriage. I think have the time people are joking when they tell you this because when I got married people said the same thing. I don't think they mean it in a bad way or anything.
2006-10-03 10:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard a lot of that when I got married too. Here's the thing: almost everyone who told me that either had been divorced and having custody issues or was in a horrible marriage. I think people assume thier experience will end up happening to every person they know. Some of the people who said those things were single friends of mine who I believe were jealous of the fact I found someone and they hadn't yet.
I don't regret my marriage by any means.
2006-10-03 10:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by flower'sopie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are only the people who it did not work out for and instead of being happy for you and being glad that you are in a good marriage and are going to start a wonderful little family of your own they are resentful of what they lost.
Be happy enjoy your marriage, have lots of kids and enjoy them all.
Sure marriage can be a little rough at times, but hey so is life. Wouldn't you rather have another person walk the road with you, than to walk alone?
And kids do change things, but with a little pratice and a little time, they fit right in like they were always there. Kids don't ruin marriages, they only can make them better, kids add love.
Enjoy life and be happy. Don't listen to the negative.
2006-10-03 10:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not negative about marriage, and have had a great marriage for many years. However, many people did make those kinds of remarks when we were getting married, and I think it's because they're not mature enough to know how to handle an adult relationship. My spouse is my best friend, not my adversary.
As for children, we decided not to have them. This was a mutual decision, and I'm so incredibly glad we made it. We're old enough to be grandparents now, had we actually bothered to have children. However, I don't make rude comments to people I meet on the street who do truly seem to like having children. It's their business. It's definitely not for me, but clearly, it seems to suit other people.
2006-10-03 10:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by thaliax 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either they are divorced and it was their fault and now feel as if they need to warn people...or they never had children, and dont know the joy it can bring to people or their just plain selfish and they want to share the attention....or their immature and rather party up their lives, have sex with multiple people and get aids...
Either way they suck and your awesome , for even thinking the way you do, you will greatly benefit and having a family is the most wonderful thing you will ever experience , having a child that no one else can have , no one else can duplicate, is priceless.
2006-10-03 14:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by aepmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered the same thing. I personally do not want to get married, but it's for totally different reasons. I'm also not saying that I never will.
Children are the biggest blessing ever and I never understood why people are so against them. I always hear people talking about how parents with older children say that they "never want to have a baby again, they dont want to go through that again" and I just never understood it. Like how they are such a burden. Makes no sense to me. I cant wait to have children.
No you do not need to be married to have them for everyone whose going to freak on that one.
2006-10-03 10:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by ME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People said the same kind of things to me. marriage is what you make it and when you have children you will want to do anything for them (not spoiling them or course) and you won't mind giving up a few minor things to accommodate so just don't listen to them. do the people who say these things have children? if no then tell them they don't know what they are talking about . I hate it when someone who has no kids tries to tell me something they know nothing about!!
2006-10-03 10:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not everybody has the same feeling, marriage has it's ups and downs, but I don't regret getting married at all.
Marriage and kids do not ruin your life, you ruin it if you don't take care of your marriage and kids
Marriage is like having kids,, you need to spend time and money to make them perfect
2006-10-03 10:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for going on 3 years and we have a soon together and we are very happy family my husband and I have been together for 13 years so don't let them tell you that.
2006-10-03 14:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kerrie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋