hi my partner lost his mum to cancer this year and i would like to help him only don't fully understand what he is going through so was hoping if any one know of support groups that could help him.
any advice would be very greatful thank you
2006-10-03 09:52:05 · 12 answers · asked by marita 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I know that I can't help him deal with the grieve just wanted to find him groups or talk to people that have been thourgh the same experince so he knows that he is not alone and how he is feeling is normal cause at moment he is not really talking and keeps things bottle up .
thank you your advice is really helping
2006-10-04 02:28:57 · update #1
I lost my dad to cancer last year and my family witnessed his death and it was not peaceful. My mum was so consumed with her grief that she took her own life three months after.
If you go on to any cancer website they all have lists of support groups that deal with bereavement after cancer. You can phone or email and they will contact you back in anyway that you wish.
Bereavement is a hard harsh thing as you have so many things in your mind at once. Guilt, anger, sadness & anguish are not good mixed together. It's not so easy to talk about at first but after time it gets easier. Your boyfriends doctor can recommend bearevement counsellers that come to the house. They are there just to listen and not to advise. They are also free as they are volunteers but all are fully trained. In time your boyfriend will adjust to how he is feeling. The sadness will still be there that he doesn't have his mum but he will cope better.
2006-10-03 10:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tabbyfur aka patchy puss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your partner want any support from outside the family? If not then you may be going about it all wrong. My mum died 11 years ago after a long battle with cancer, I had family around me but I didn't get much attention as my dad seemed to get all the hugs etc from family, my friends were supportive in that they would say - do you want to talk? and if I didn't then I'd just have a cry sometimes. I craved the attention from my family and that is probably the best thing you can do for him. Be whatever he wants you to be and don't keep saying that you want to help, you can't. i know that seems harsh but just be there, let him know you are there for him to cry on, or talk to or just sit quietly with, or even go out shopping with, doing normal things can sometimes be a good thing.
If you do want/need a support group then the hospice where his mum was will be able to direct you to the local group. Marie Curie are always helpful.
Good luck in the coming months.
2006-10-04 01:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lilac Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hospice was involved they normally send information to the caregiver to pass along to the family. You may also call your local hospice and they will send you the information. Both my parents died of cancer, four months apart. They lived with me and I was a working single parent. I am sure I might not have gotten all the information to everyone, that is common in any caregivers life. I wish your partner well it takes a long time, believe me it was in 1988 and it still hard.
2006-10-03 12:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your partner's loss. My Mom has liver cancer and I have been searching for an on-line support group and so far I have selected cancercare.org. Maybe he could try this as well.
It's wonderful that he has you to help him through this difficult stage of life.
Take care and good luck.
2006-10-03 10:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by T'S PAGE FOR NOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when this happened to me but both parents together, i had counselling from cruse bereavement care
he might not want to talk about it though
i didn't and got heavily pushed into it and if i'm honest i think it did more harm than good, i used to say what i thought the woman wanted to hear and never really said what i was feeling
its 9 years down the line now and i still look back and think i'd have got over it better if i hadn't been pushed into counselling
hope your boyfriend gets the help he needs
2006-10-03 10:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear of his loss. I lost my dad in January from cancer and it still hurts like crazy. As for your question, I work at a hospital, and I know that they offer support groups there. I would check with them. If they don't offer one, they would probably know who would. You could probably ask a social worker too.
2006-10-03 15:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ryans Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ACOR listserv is a non-commercial and monitored listserv dedicated to cancer and cancer issues. One of the groups is called Facing-Ahead which is focused on helping people face the grief of the death of a loved one. Here is the URL. They currently have 231 members. good luck
http://listserv.acor.org/archives/facing-ahead.html
2006-10-03 10:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a Hospice on your section? if so, call them and that they're going to placed you in touch with their bereavement help communities. i understand at our Hospice we've a help group for persons who've lost a determine.
2016-10-15 11:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by lurette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a parent, for any reason, is something that comes to most of us. If he is having unusual difficulty with mourning his loss, you might suggest he talk to a counsellor, or a minister. But it can take many months to overcome the devastation of losing a parent with whom we are close. The best you can do is be supportive of his right to mourn.
2006-10-03 09:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The county that I reside has a Bereavement Coordinator at the hospice. She talked to me privately. My mom was never in hospice care, but the woman meets with anyone in our county who lost a loved one. In fact, we met today and it was so great to talk to someone who looked like they didn't want me to shut up.
2006-10-03 13:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by hrmom02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋