I have been divorced for about 4 years now and am disappointed that I have not established a worth while realtionship yet. The bar scene is getting old and I have tried online dating breifly. I don't consider myself picky when it comes to finding a man and like to give everyone a chance. I am at my wits end and am afraid that I may never meet someone to share the rest of my life with.
2006-10-03 09:43:11 · 19 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ohhh, I don't know... I'd been asking myself the same question for years! In the 4 years following my divorce, I found dates pretty much exclusively online. I've never been a type that hangs out at bars, and most of my friends are older and married; I'm just not into the "singles" scene. So, online dating worked ok, and, although it took a while, I finally met a person whom I recently married. We are both very reclusive indoor "quiet" people - if it wasn't for online personals, our paths would never have crossed.
I also tried a professional dating service, which was very expensive, and ended up being a total disaster. A couple of acquaintainces tried a similar thing, with similar (disastrous) results. So far, I have not heard anything good about these services - but I suppose you could do some careful research, and give it a try. Other ideas that could be implemented with the right mindset would be singles cruises, outdoor/athletic activities, golf, church, professional organizations, any kind of social club where you meet people.
I met a lot of interesting people when I was doing medieval/renaissance re-enactment (SCA and similar organizations) - but they were kind of not up to my standards as far as maturity and financial responsiblity.
Good luck.
2006-10-03 10:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how bleak the bar scene can be. The call them meat markets, but I prefer an actual meat market because at least you know about the quality of the meat.
Internet dating is time absorbing. It takes time to read and digest, mail and then meet a possibility only to find that for someone the chemistry is not there. Time to go looking again, but with a heavier heart.
Look, why not try speed dating. You know in advance that the most time it will take will be two hours. You are guaranteed to get an introduction to a line of guys. There is no obligation to give your personal contact details. You do not have to see them ever again. I dont know where you live or whether there is a speed dating event near you. I have never done speed dating myself, but I admire those who have done so. Some friends have met nice people this way.
2006-10-03 09:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously clubs and bars are no place to meet a descent man. They just look for the peace, u know what I mean! Online dating is just to risky also. U need to take ur time. I know that ur scared but the reality is that the more eager u are to find a man, u might get the wrong one. The right man for u will come. Maybe u can do a makeover u know,change ur self a bit if u need to. Don't show men that ur needy. U can also try speed dating!
2006-10-03 09:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will meet someone, it's a given. And, you are not picky, just very selective.
Try Match.com. One of my friends was very reluctant to do this because she had tried Yahoo Personals and it didn't seem to really work for her.
Like you, she was pretty frustrated. We all convinced her to try once more. After meeting a few frogs she did find a prince. He's a great guy as well as a local TV new reporter in her area. So, there are some very selective people at Match.com.
Odds are you'll find your match.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 09:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not involved in church go. If you are involved in church, get further involved through a church singles group. You may have to go to a church larger than the one you currently attend to find a good co-ed singles group.
I am a guy, but from what I understand, women's biggest frustrations with men center around character issues. You might not find the "hottest hunk" at church, but you will find men of good character.
Keep your chin up. I met the woman I eventually married at a time when I was down on women and not really even trying to meet anybody.
2006-10-03 09:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you like to do? Do you know you can find a club for just about anything you enjoy? I would start there. That way you are enjoying yourself, meeting people, and maybe even meet that special someone who shares the same passion as you do! For example, I know a couple who are Parrot Heads. =) They are really into that singer, uhhhh what;s his name Bob something, lol. I would try to stick to something within your age group. For expample...I am not sure I would meet someone at Bingo, lol....but heh.....you never know, lol Some churches also have singles groups. Their focus is to get out and have fun. A lot of people meet their love that way too.
2006-10-03 09:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dominika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work, gym, friends who know of single guys, sport events, etc. Also, in america, people don't meet people at movie theaters nor do they meet people in libraries. Maybe try night clubs or speed dating conventions. If all else fails, you could be like the one guy from america did a few years back, he made posters about himself that said something like "Hi Im
2016-03-27 03:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you this, but when u least excepted it, it will happen. in the meantime, go out with co-workers to happy hour on friday, or go out with your friends on weekends. yes bars are not the right place to meet anyone, all you will end up meeting are either drunks or men who enjoy to drink way too much.
go to coffee houses, bookshops, go to galleries with friends, hang out a local place, try not to get fixed with too many friend friends because i had a few of those, and i would ask my friends why are you hooking me up, the guys are such losers. i am also not picky, but i would like a man who treats me well not treat me like one of the guys, i am not a guy.
go to the bowling alley, go to karaoke bars, if there is a park where people walk, start getting together and start walking. there are walk clubs in mot large citites.
also if you are tall, there are tall clubs , or check the newspaper, most major cititesd have special events happening around town you can go to .
good luck
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2006-10-03 09:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋