My Boyfriend and I have only been dating almost a year. But we are certain that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Is it too soon?
2006-10-03 09:37:51 · 16 answers · asked by Erin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would get married first... then think about babies after... but, its up to you. Personally I would wait though.
2006-10-03 09:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're really not sure, then you are def not ready to have a baby. Not that anyone ever is ready. A baby completely changes your life and it is VERY rough at first. After getting no continous sleep for a month or so you can hardly stand the site of your lover, and it can be very tough to stay connected to that person. You guys have only been together 1 year so take your time (you have your whole lives ahead of you)! Get to know each other better then consider it.
2006-10-03 16:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were together almost years before I got pregnant. We got married shortly after finding out. We're very happy but have been through alot together. My cousin on the other hand, found out she was pregnant back in January and is due any day now. She isn't planning on marrying the father until they've dated for at least another year because she doesn't want to rush into a marriage that will fail like her mother did just because she was pregnant. It's best to plan these things but if it happens don't do something you don't FEEL you're ready for.
2006-10-03 16:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are ready to be tied to someone for the rest of your life have NO sleep for 6 months or more and stress that you never could have imagined . Having a baby is wonderful and the best thing that could ever happen but you also need to look at reality and see all the bad stuff to in order to make a definite decision.
2006-10-03 16:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by freckleface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question. You aren't sure~~~~ so no. It's not like you're saying whoops I'm pregnant~~ What should I do. That would be completely different. Before you have a child make sure you have a proper home and that you and your boyfriend make this decision together.
2006-10-03 16:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf and i were together for a year and then 2 years and then i got pregnant had The baby and now we are broken up. make sure your ready. ready ready like have a house, a stable job, enough money saved and time to give to the baby and that your relationship can handle the sacrifice its going to have to make to raise this baby.
2006-10-03 16:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure, how about getting married first, they your baby will have a nice secure family to grow up with. Marriage is the first step, if you aren't ready for that then you are not ready for a baby.
2006-10-03 16:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy to Be 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no not at all, because you are just like me!! i have been with my sweetheat for a year now and we both know that we love each other, but were both still in college and we are waiting till we get out to get married.. BUT I just found out i was pregnant a few weeks ago and it has brought us so much closer.. we are still sticking to our plan and waiting till were done with school to get married but now were gonna have a baby and he is so excited and so am I..And if you two know you love each other and are certain like you said then its not too soon.. nobody else is living your life and you cant let anybody tell you its too soon... If anyone does try to tell you that it's too soon .. ask yourself.. do they know you, do they spend everyday with you like he does, are they your best friend, do they really know just how happy you are... Having a baby and getting married are two life changing things.. who said you have to do them in order ;) good luck babe!!
2006-10-03 16:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're 15, yes!
If you're an adult, then that's a decision that needs to be made between the two of you. Having a baby will change your relationship, but that can definitely be a positive thing.
2006-10-03 16:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is...once you start a family, that's it. Take this time to enjoy one and other, perhaps get married first. Kids are great, I have 4, but they are a big responsibility, so make sure you are ready to make that change in your lives, if you decide to start your family.
2006-10-03 16:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by glo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure that is why there is so many kids out here without fathers.the best thing you can do is to wait.age is a factor,1 year is nothing compared to raising a kid on your own.if he loves you he will marry you make sure he can support you and a child.if he can't then who pays for this (PLANNED) pregnancy.you need to enjoy your life before kids come because after they are here your life is your kids.
2006-10-03 16:48:00 · answer #11 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋