ive been seeing this guy for a few months but hes got a girlfreind who he says hes only with her because of the baby i wanna tell him its over not because i dont like him because i feel second best how do i tell him with out hurting his feelings ?????
2006-10-03 09:36:55 · 63 answers · asked by lisa b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that although you really like him, you feel that a man that would cheat on his girlfriend is not the kind of guy you want to get deeply involved with. Let him know that although you like him, you need to explore available men...you don't have 18 years to wait for that baby to be an adult.
PS -I wonder why you are worried about his feelings, he's selfish. He's not with that woman because of the baby only - he's getting the best of both worlds good thing you realize this before its too late.
2006-10-03 09:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by NoPeace4Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tel him he has to make a choice either be with you or you will end the relationship. You have to make the best possible choice for yourself and if that means ending it and getting out of the relationship with some self-respect than do so. Think about it if he has a 'friend' that has a baby then he is already tied to them and the child will take primary force for him (as it should be). If you where to stay with him you probably always be second best to the child when it came to buying things, spending time together etc. But if you really like him than sit down with him and tell him what you want and what you understand he needs to do and give him time to respond. He may surprise you and agree with everything you said and either end the relationship on a good note or compromise with you and them. Either way you will have your answer right?
2006-10-03 09:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by victoria b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him whats what.You don't want anymore to do with him because of his other relationship. He is only using the child as an excuse because he is basically having his cake and eating it. He is having a relationship with you and with another woman as well. Sounds like you are doing the right thing, if he did leave his partner and child he isn't much of a man who cares for responsibility and he will probably do exactly the same thing to you. a leopard doesn't change his spots. Just tell him as soon as you can that its over and walk away. Don't worry about his feelings as i think he is too shallow to have them.
2006-10-03 09:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the most famous line in the book. If a man tells you he is with his girl for the kids it's just a easy way to get you as a booty call. Hurt his feelings I would hurt his a--.He must not have feelings for his girl why should he have feelings for you. I know he probably tells you that his girl don't do this or that but guess what that is a lie to. Dump him & don't look back for own good.
2006-10-03 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but if he cares about you at all it will hurt no matter how you end it. So the next best thing is to do so with both of your dignities intact and the only way I know is to tell him truthfully. Truthfully doesn't have to be hurtful though, what you choose to tell him about your feelings can be censored. This way you can have a clean break, clean conscience and maybe a chance at a friendship, if you want. Good luck.
2006-10-03 09:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by Iristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem 2 care bout ur feelins of bein the 1 whos leftout! So y shud u care hes a big man now he can take it. If he was gonna leave he he would've done it by now. And if he did leave her wud u b able 2 trust him not 2 do it 2 u? I think u shud leave him an find sum1 whos gonna have u as no1 an gives u respect. Trust me the feelin of bein more loved is better than feelin left out an let down! Good luck. xx
2006-10-03 09:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by 13Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put his feelings before yours?
You just tell him you wish things were different, but due to the fact that he has a child with another woman, he should concentrate him attention there as his first duty, and you are not comfortable being second.
Besides, you deserve to be the first in a mans life, and that man is out there for you. Stop looking, it will happen on it's own.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-03 09:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are an honest person and you cant cope with being second best. He could be with you if he wanted to, he could still see and provide for his baby if he left. Dont be fooled by him find someone who is free to love you and have a proper relationship.
2006-10-03 09:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! women always amaze me because they are so self-sacrificing! I mean he has a girl and expects for you to share and accept that . wow! and you are thinking of hurting his feelings? You deserve better baby even if you don't think you do. He should not have his cake and eat it too, move forward and don't be a reason for him to neglect his little one (the baby) by spending quality time and or money on you when the little one should come first, besides think about it what if you were her?
2006-10-03 09:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by shawtypimp2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about his feelings? He's not too worried about his "other" girlfriend or his baby if he's out running around on them. Is this the kind of guy you want to spend your life with?
Just tell the truth and end it. He needs to live with his own decisions.
2006-10-03 09:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by SuZeeQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋