my son now says he doesnt want to go and cant understand why im upset with him. i had to work 6 months over time at work to pay for it and now cant get my money back. am i over reacting ???
2006-10-03 09:29:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old is your son? Is it the first time he's going to be away from home?
I appreciate that you've worked hard and of course you've got a right to be annoyed, but you need to work out whether he's doing it because he's: a) an ungrateful little imp, who likes messing you about and doing what he likes [Be very annoyed]; b) he recently watched Passenger 57 and has developed a serious fear of flying [Be annoyed with whoever gave him that particular DVD]; c) he's young and suddenly realised that he's going to be very far away from his home and his loved ones and he's scared [Be annoyed that he didn't realise this sooner, but you can at least understand what might be going through his head]. As I said, I don't know how old your son is or what his character is like. I will just say that if the answer is (a), you should make it extremely clear that he can forget pocket money, Christmas presents, and Birthday presents until he turns 50!
2006-10-03 09:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should look at why he doesn't want to go and try and find a solution. I would also be very upset. Couldn't someone else take his place at a discount so you didn't lose all your money ??? I think he should pay you the money back not necessarily in cash but in jobs etc. He should learn the value of what you have done for him.
2006-10-03 16:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by CHRISTINE T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, He should of really thought about going there and he should of not decide to change his mind to do that. he probably uncomfortable with his surrounding but soon he will get use to it.
Its like moving to a new school. he should suck it up and take it like a man. You worked hard to send him to where he wanted to go nad if he doesn't want to be there, well tough luck for him. Unless he is ready to pay back all that money then he will stay there, if he was my son.
2006-10-03 16:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by frost_icing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting, but who's idea was it to send him to Canada. If it was his idea then you should make him get a job to pay you back. If it was not his idea then you just learned an expensive lesson.
Can the fair be transferred to another person, maybe you can get your money back that way.
Good luck.
2006-10-03 16:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Miguel O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of corse your not over reacting u have worked your a,r,s,e off for him and hes turned around and said he dosnt want to go. he is probly scared of going just try to reasure him it would be ok and if he dosnt want to go still then thats such a shame but are u sure u cant get your money back that sounds relly weird that u cant id look into it further :D
2006-10-03 16:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not overreacting.
He has a simple choice - he either goes, or he gets a part-time job and pays you every penny of that money back.
A valuable life lesson, that.
2006-10-03 16:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him go or tell him you want £600 back!
Manipulation is the key!
2006-10-03 16:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is alot of money! Ask him why he doesnt want t go, tell him if he really doesnt want to go you want him to pay it you back! Cant you sell his space bacuase that is alot of money to loose for nothing...!
2006-10-03 16:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
No, I think you're TOTALLY entitled to feel upset and you are not over-reacting!
Kids, eh?
Best of luck with him!
2006-10-03 16:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious and send him!!!! usually kids change their minds,we force them to go,and they have a fantastic time.Kids can be so ungrateful.
2006-10-03 16:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋