I have tried EVERYTHING to pottytrain my 3.5 year old. He goes pee no problem. He even goes to bed at night in his undies. My problem is he won't poop on the toilet. I've tried putting in a small potty for him. My parenting mag. says leave the underwear on him. He'll only get constipated once. He poops in them too though! I've tried giving in and putting a pull up on him (but I don't want to give in all the time). He has sat on the potty and will hold it in until he gets off then will do it in his undies or pull up. Please please someone help me with some advice. I go through alot of laundry. He is due to start school next September too. Why won't he poop on the potty?! Thank you in advance and if you're only looking for the 2 points go answer someone else. I'm desperate.
2006-10-03 09:13:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I forgot to add that I've even tried to be "mean" about it saying that his sisters don't want to play with him 'cause he stinks. Or we don't want him to sit beside us....
2006-10-03 09:18:51 · update #1
I have a 3.5 y/o son too...so I can relate. Sounds like he's in it for the power struggle. I would put him in a pullup, and not talk about it anymore. Give him a few weeks of pooping in his pants, just change him without any fussing (on your part). Once he realizes that you aren't focusing on it anymore, he might surprise you and just go on his own in the potty. Then you'll be free to fight with him about the other things 3 year olds fight about, like food, naps, etc. School is still a year away, and how many normal 4 or 5 year olds still wear pullups in kindergarten? I think he'll come around for you before NEXT Sept. If not, it will only take him one stinky day at kindergarten to realize he's a big boy!
2006-10-03 09:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Nielsmom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is refusing because he knows you really want him to poop in the toilet. If you insist, he will resist. This is something only he can control so hold him completely responsible for the clean up. Count out the remainder of the pull ups with him. Say "After 7 more pull ups you get to use the toilet." When they run out, leave him in underwear. If he soils himself, he can remove the soiled underwear, shake the poop in the toilet, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean himself, and put on clean clothing. If he refuses to change, pick a spot when he needs to stay until he is ready to change his clothes. He will soon learn it is much easier to poop in the toilet. Hope this help you! Good luck!
2006-10-03 12:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should buy a potty seat he can use at the grownup potty, or you'll be able to make him use the baby. Either approach you can in most cases ought to keep in the toilet with him till he is going for the primary few months of potty coaching. Don't assume him to be equipped to move in there and deal with it himself. Grab a ebook and plant your self till he is going. Don't make it traumatic. You can present a present of a few sort if he makes use of both potty (like 2 m&m's). Be sufferer although he isn't and do not fear. Training takes time.
2016-08-29 08:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common problem with boys and pooping during training. Keep positive reinforcement, never punish and make sure his stool are very soft. If he is at all the least bit constipated he will hold it back for fear of it hurting.
2006-10-03 10:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be scary for kids to poop on the potty Why? I am not sure but... Sounds really bad but bribe him with treats it worked well for my girls. It only took 1 week
2006-10-03 09:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had the same problem. I kept him in pullups until he got it right. Once he realized that he was too old to wear diapers he started asking for underwear and that's when we had a talk. It's amazing what humility does.
2006-10-03 09:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by The Muse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest offering a reward for going in the toilet - with my son, I used Hot Wheels cars!!
2006-10-03 09:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter did the same thing... She was scared of the "Poop"
we rewarded her and also sat with to help with the scared part.
It takes a while so be patient and good luck
2006-10-03 09:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have issues with the feeling of it not in his diaper/underwear. You may need to get him used to the idea of it being okay to let it go in the water.
2006-10-03 09:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by charlemagne85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats easy to fix i can have your litle one going potty in less that a day
2006-10-03 10:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋