my husband and I have been seperated for a year now. We are working things out. While seperated I started going to a church with one of my friends and have fallen in love with the church. Now that my husband and I are getting back together he wants me to stop going to my new church of 5 months and find a new one with him. **Am I wrong not to want to change churches or should start fresh with him at a new church?
2006-10-03 09:07:15 · 19 answers · asked by Hello Kitty 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
he currently doesn't have a church, and doesn't like the church I go to because my friend (a female) is the one who took me there.
2006-10-03 09:14:01 · update #1
Unfortunately, the husband, according to the Bible, is to be the leader of the faith in his home and the wife is to be his helper. If you are looking for Biblical instruction, that's what it says. On the other hand, you are also allowed to determine whether or not a new church teaches as Jesus taught and can "help" your husband by giving him your opinion of the new church's doctrine if you feel it is contrary to the Word of God. Sorry. I wish I could say, "Go to any church you like." The truth is that to curb confusion and dissent in the home, the Bible says the man must lead the family in instruction. God Bless you and your family.
2006-10-03 09:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by reformed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Your familiarity with your church is directly related to how much you benefit from going there and how much you are willing to give in return. Starting in a new church, if you are unlucky, will literally be starting over in the practice of your faith. You will have to get to know the leaders of the church, find out what programs they have that fit your schedule, etc.
BUT, I don't want this to be interpreted as a suggestion to avoid change no matter what. It is very possible that finding a new church with your husband will bring you two closer together in your spiritual lives.
Long story short, ask your husband his reasons for not wanting to go to your church, see if they are legitimate; and think twice about getting back together with someone who failed once already and immediately asks you to sacrifice part of your life.
Edit: From the additional details, that seems a pretty shallow reason for him to want to change churches. If he has something against your friend, tell him to either forgive or ask for forgiveness from your friend.
2006-10-03 16:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by wdmc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is full of compromises, the question to ask yourself is- what is more important to you at this time, your enjoyment of this new church or the rebuilding of your relationship with your husband. you must make this decision, if it is your relationship, what does it hurt to find a new church together, it may well turn out that you will find one that you enjoy together as much or even more than where you are now.good luck in your construction of your new relationship, start by talking with your husband and find out what is reasons are, perhaps he has valid reasons for his wish for a new church, remember if you separated in the first place , there were issues that were a problem, talking through all concerns as they come up, is the best way to repair and improve a relationship, what you ultimately want is a better relationship with each other. i pray it all becomes terrific for you both.
2006-10-03 16:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay "BE CAREFULL" I said this because falling in love is not the reason to pick a Church, it is not a good reason because you like the people or the pastor, "If they speak not according to the law and the testmony it is because there is NO light in them" Isa 8:20, and in Rev. 12:17 satan is said to make war with the woman [church in prophecy is a church, good woman good church, bad woman bad church] and His [God's] church is said to keep the commandments [not suggestions] and have the testamony of Jesus Christ, How about visiting a Seventh Day Adventist Church in your area, did you know the fourth commandment to keep the Sabbath is still valid and sunday is the first day of the week and the bible NEVER calls it a sabbath, find out more so to Adventist church on Saturday mornings, also free bible lessons www.itiswritten.com God bless you.
2006-10-03 16:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by wgr88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT seems that your husband has a few more issues to work out before he is ready to be your husband again.
He seems to still be trying to exert control over you in the form of a person that he does not care for. He should know that he is love her regardless of how he feels personally about her.
I would have never found a church to worship at if I had chosen based on if I liked everyone that worships there, I do not believe such a place even exists.
Church is for worshipping God, not for grudges and hurt feelings. If your husband works this out, he should find that he is happy to attend church and worship God regardless of who else might worship there.
2006-10-03 16:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you like the church that you're currently going to then keep going. If your husband wants to go to a different church, than let him.
No, you are not wrong for wanting to go to a specific church. If he's trying to force you into going to an other church, he's wrong. Freedom of religion and all. And I'm sure that God would want you to worship him where you are happiest, not where you're the the most obligated. -best wishes.
2006-10-03 16:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want to look for another church? Does he feel that everyone in there blame him for the break-up? Compromise, tell him if he goes with you for a month and he still hate it then you might try another one, but if you hate the new one after a month,then you will go back to the first one? I think he is wrong to ask you to move because it is unreasonable and controlling.I also feel God put us in a particular church for good reasons and not for us to pick and choose.
2006-10-03 16:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly enjoy that church, you should continue going. however, give him a chance and try out his church. If you don't like it, then go back to yours. I know several families that have the wife go to one church while the husband to another and it seems to work out decently.
2006-10-03 16:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by koros 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, personally I'm an atheist... but if you're attached to your current church, there should be no real reason for your husband to take you somewhere else, unless there's a legitimate stigma he has for the place. Tell him to settle down and go to your church, a place of worship is a place of worship. To think anything else would be blasphemy I suppose. (But keep in mind, this is all hypothetical. Me =atheist =/= belief in god and religion.)
2006-10-03 16:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by DaMunky89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why does he not even want to try out the church you are going to?
2006-10-03 16:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋