my aunt is like my mother i respect and love her, however i dont agree with the way she treats me and my family. I told her this and now feel gulity for it.
2006-10-03 08:48:49 · 21 answers · asked by slsonya719 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her that, not us
2006-10-03 08:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn_small 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never say or do anything you feel guilty about or that you will regret. You spoke the truth so you shouldn't feel guilty about that. You are probably feeling guilty about the way you said it. My advice to you is that you take your aunt to luch or dinner and try to have that conversation over again. This time you should think of a way to say how you truly feel but with out an attitude or any form of sarcasim. Speak from your heart, if she is willing to have an adult conversation with you and listen to what you have to say, then I don't see why the two of you can't deal with your issues without you having to feel guilty.
2006-10-03 09:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her the same thing you wrote in your explanation of the situation, tell her how you feel openly and honestly. She obviously love you to and will realize that you are only human like her, and respect you because you were straight with her. If after hearing how you feel, she would still feel hurt or bitter then it is just a question of time before she realizes that you care enough to apologize. And you can sleep easy knowing you did the right thing.
2006-10-03 08:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfeyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are things that actually needed to be said, then you shouldnt feel guilty. But my guess is that it all came out during an arguement, so you may have been a little more harsh than you intended.
You can apologize, but make sure that what was said were things that had been bothering you and maybe you can both work on that.
2006-10-03 08:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard with family since they are the ones we sh*t on the most, but I would go to her and ask if u could discuss what was said. Maybe now things will go different since u've both had a chance to think about it. I would not appologize if u meant what u said. Just sometimes things don't come out right in the heat of the moment...
2006-10-03 09:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by unclear_tag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to stand up for yourself and what you believe...even if it is someone you love. Don't feel guilty...just continue the dialogue with you aunt....and tell her that you love her. Families should be able to express their opinions in an open and loveing environment.
2006-10-03 08:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't regret what you said, then you shouldn't be feeling guilty. I would search deeper for the feeling of guilt. Perhaps you did say something you shouldn't have, perhaps you didn't. Sounds like your unsure. I say figure that out first, then talk with your Aunt.
2006-10-03 08:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by *Chelley* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty for something that you think is right. You can say sorry to her but make sure you tell her that you don't agree with the way she is treating your family.
2006-10-03 08:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still need to express how you feel. You just need to do it in a different way. Ask for forgiveness for the "way" you told her, but don't be sorry about telling her you have been treated badly.
You were probably very angry when you talked to her. Always keep your cool when dealing with other people, even when you are angry.
2006-10-03 08:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to her, and let her know that the things that were said is how you really feel. And you feel as if you shouldn't have to take them back. But you do apologize for disrespecting her. But your thoughts on how she treats you and the family, remains the same.
2006-10-03 08:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are contradicting yourself. First you said u dont regret it but u feel guilty about it? So, u do regret.
Listen up girl, live life like its ur last.
2006-10-03 09:08:54 · answer #11 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋