I am dating a guy that has been hurt by love, as have I. And he can't open up or talk about us or even what he likes about me. He is thoughtful, gentle and affectionate. But verbally, there is this big wall when it comes to emotions.
usually in dating, guys are all 'you are so great' and then it calms down. With him, I feel like I am holding out for a 'someday he will tell me something that he likes about me', he is not ready.
I don't believe I should compromise in my choice of a man.
What would you do.
Stick it out for his potential and the hope of someday?
Break up with him and find someone more ready?
Or tell him this, and that we need a break until he is more ready?
2006-10-03 08:41:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
c. Life is short. 2 things are going on here, either he is emotionally immature and doesn't even know how to express himself or translate how he is feeling. Or, he does not feel a strong bond with you and is just kind of stalling and putzing around waiting for either something better or for feelings to start happening for you. Either way, don't waste too much time on him, Lots of fish out there, biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig ocean...
2006-10-03 08:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by RamsGod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one... im wonderin how long u two have been together... well i was in somewhat a similar situation... my bf was really hurt.. he actually caught his ex in bed w/ someone else and he couldnt trust anyone anymore... he was in a couple of relationship before me but they were short because he couldnt open up.. well when we started dating he was not too much into sharing ... but its been about 6 months and he's opened up a whole lot more and its great... i guess it took someone who is caring and patient to open him up.. i say stick in there and u just might find ur love of life... be patient .. let him know u care and that u are not like the person who hurt him... good luck and i trust u will make the right decision... if all fails listen to ur heart!!
2006-10-03 15:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by da1Nonly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes thoughtful, gentle and affectionate, and you are still complaining. There is no such thing as a perfect man..or woman for that matter. We all have our faults. Hes a good man and you care about him. Why does he have to verbally validate what and why he feels for you?
You shouldnt have to compromise if you want a certain kind of man, but maybe you need to look into the standards you are setting.
2006-10-03 15:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs time. Not everyone reacts the same when they get hurt. What happen to him must of really been messed up for him to be that way. I think that you should give him space to think things over. He needs to understand also that not everyone is the same. he should give you a chance because while he is acting that way he might be letting go a person that could really love him and be the love of his life.
2006-10-03 15:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my move would would be be his greatest friend around to understand him first...who knows he might be the right one and yes he is more alert if he is gonna hurt again then...he is silent doesnt mean he will remain like that forever...give him time ur love ur affection he will forget the past and share ur today wid u....remember its those people who have paitence who have made relationships work......and all the best
2006-10-03 15:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to each other is the basis of each relationship. If he doesn't talk you miss that basis
2006-10-03 15:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him again
2006-10-03 15:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋