I like this guy and I think he likes me. I had my first kiss with him at a school football game. Were Freshmen in High School. My friend asked him if he wants to go out with me. He said no but hes thinking about it. Later in art class he started telling perople that we weren't going out were just friends with benefits. I didn't know what that meant and I didn't even agree to it. (I know what it means now though). I don't want to have sex with him. I'm one of those people who will wait until I'm married or atleast can hold up a sturdy relationship and support a child. I don't know what to do. One of my friends told me to tell him no, but I like him so much and just want to be boyfriend and girlfriend or just friends. We joke around and flirt, tickle each other, and hug (Not the "only a friend" kind). I don't know what to do. Please help.
2006-10-03 08:39:40 · 15 answers · asked by Monkeyboots92 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your friends with benefits does it always mean your going to have sex?
2006-10-03 08:47:20 · update #1
You said it yourself, you don't want to have sex with him. Then don't.
So you really liked him but now that you know he just wants to get into your pants maybe you should think about if he really is the kind of guy you really like.
You could still be his friend but I would recommend you don't fall for him. Be patient, it's worth the wait... wait till someone better comes along (someone usually does come along).
2006-10-03 08:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_monkey_jr010 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats your choice. You said you don't want to have sex with him, so the answer to that would be NO. You will not be boyfriend and girlfriend when you are friends with benefits. You will get your feelings hurt and heart broken. Just be friends with him the way you are and stick to your guns about not having sex till you are married or in a Sturdy relationship. Don't give in to anybody and definitly don't change your values for a guy that doesn't want to be with you for you.
2006-10-03 08:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no! girl cause someone will get hurt sex most of the time leads 2 having feelings 4 someone! and you 2 already like each other but the whole "friends with benefits" can ruin a friendship! cause if he starts a REAL relationship he's gonna be done with the sex part (hopefully he's not a cheater) and your the one who will be hurt! ask him why is it your good enough 2 have sex with but not have a real relationship! sit back and look at how much of a friend he is 2 you and is the friendship worth risking! good luck girl!
2006-10-03 08:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by finenazfuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having fun, enjoying being friends. Keep flirting, tickling, and hugging, but you would be going way too far if you started having sex with him just because you want him to be your boyfriend. Sex is a big deal. It complicates emotions, risks pregnancy, etc. Be happy and enjoy life as it is. Also, don't let him tell people that -- it's a lie, and those things spread and can hurt your reputation. He is wrong for telling lies about you.
2006-10-03 08:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you've got a couple different things going on here that you need to look at. You've kissed, you "joke around and flirt, tickle each other & hug"..so even tho this guy has told people he doesn't want to go out with you, you still let him get physical with you..which is probably his "with benefits". You aren't ready to have sex with him - you want a steady relationship..preferable one that will lead to marriage. So, I would suggest still being friends with this guy..show him you're fun to be with, but stop the physical fooling around. Tell him you like being friends with him, but you're saving the kissing and touching for someone who wants to be your steady...someone who respects you.
2006-10-03 08:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by wassup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 19:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has the lack of respect for you to say to everyone that you are his friend with benefits, taht's rude and he will just use you if you give in. If you aren't ready then don't do it, you'll be lowering your morals. There will be other guys you like, and you'll be glad you waited to do it with someone who means something to you.
2006-10-03 08:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no.
He isn't worth it.
And I don't think HE realizes what the term 'friends with benefits' means. Becaus really, what right does he have to ASSUME that you would agree to it just because you like him?
2006-10-03 08:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, a friend with benefits is what used to be called a "****** friends".
Having said that, he wants to use you as a ****** friend which means he doesnt have a lot of respect for you so forget him.
2006-10-03 08:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it.. tell him the only way he gets in your pants is with a relationship. he can't go around playing you like that.. i've had that sort of experience before, and the best advice is just tell him head on whats going on.. and if he's not into it.. then the hell with him,
2006-10-03 08:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by jerika*14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋