Why are women so complicated? I've never met one woman who could be normal..........?

Question

This is not to be taken offense to, but I have never met one female in my life ( that includes my own mom ) who had emotional stability, a rational mind, and were cool when something bad happended. It's like their brains are incapable of handling stressful circumstances and they go overboard with emotion's. I only say this because of my messed up dating life. I am a nice guy but with alot of backbone. I am good to them and that scares them. It shouldn't but they always come up with reason's why they can't talk to me anymore and it hurt's me. It is like I am not allowed to voice my own opinions, have anything my way, and they just don't know how to have a genuine argument or conversation without having issue's arise. I know I am smart to be single but I think God really messed up when he constructed female's from the male body but who know's. I just want an answer preferable from men and non feministic women who have something valuable to say, nothing rude or smart a@@.

and i am not that young for those of you who have stereotypical assumptions from this question of mine. i am only asking for facts or opinions, i have alot of experience in dating and interpersonal relationships with different types of people. thank you

Answer 1

Well from a woman's perspective men can be just as complex.
"Why can't a man be more like a woman?" - "Why can't a woman be more like a man?" - as age old question you hear from both sexes. Science is proving more and more that there are tremendous differences between the brains of men and women - differences that impact the way we think, react, process, prioritize, and behave. Women have a larger speech center in the brain than men do making women more talkative, for example (like you hadn't noticed), while men have larger visual and sexual centers, making it difficult for them to not ogle and fantasize about the cute waitress taking your order. Women in crisis are naturally hormonally designed to reach out to one another, while men's hormones actually block their ability to connect to others at times of high stress, hence sending them to their "caves." These simple differences (and so many more) are hardwired into men and women and are not the result of our culture, childhood, or environment. Instead, much of the roots of this "hardwiring" is physiologically in place within weeks of conception. Once understood, men and women can find more understanding and appreciation for one another - no longer misinterpreting their differences to be "disconnects" or personal affronts. The good news is that these very differences are something to be celebrated and embraced, allowing two complimentary skill sets and ways of being to form a more fulfilling union. I think many women find men to be so wonderful initially, only to have them soon morph into "beer-belching couch slugs." We start to think we are frog farmers eventually turning all our princes into frogs. I guess both sexes need to go on a mission to understand each other.

Answer 2

Ok first let me start by saying that I am no man hater and I have nothing but my own experiences to guide my answer so here it goes. I myself am a very strong woman who 95% of the time am very emotionally stable and I like to think that I am also a rational person. I think that often times people expect that everyone can handle everything all the time and that is simply not true. We all have our days and some are better than others, but most importantly I think that in cases where you are dealing with a woman you are dating (or even your own mother)-who just might be under stress, dealing with PMS or generally having a bad day-you might want to consider the supportive approach. Instead of thinking (I am sure at times out loud) that their arguments or conversations are ingenuine or inconsequestial (beause they are not YOUR problem), you may want to understand that maybe they are looking to you for guidance or even to just LISTEN (And if they asking for your guidance instead of being so negative you should be thankful that a woman respects you enough to look to you for help). I mean everyone knows men and women are different and therefore they handle things differently but judging one based on the way they are handling a problem that you may not quite understand or appreciate the value of may be what is responsible for your "messed up dating life". Most women weak, strong or indifferent are not going to want to deal with a man that label women as "going overboard with emotions" (especially when in the next few sentences he is going to talk about how HIS feelings get hurt.) And of course in life there are always options: If you really feel so strongly about women having issues that you can't or don't want to deal with-try being with a man. Who knows-the first guy you date may same the same things you say about women about you! (Stranger things have happened.) Either way though good luck! No disrespect intended!

Answer 3

It's sad that you've been hurt by women/girls. However, try to understand that you are generalizing in the extreme. A great many women are able to maintain an intelligent conversation and remain calm in crisis. You sound like you're very young and you may come on too strongly with your opinions. It's one thing to debate and another to force your own opinions down someone else's throat. I noticed at the end of your question, you also stated that you didn't want to hear from feminists. I believe you meant you just didn't want to hear a lot of male bashing or criticisms but if not, you may be pursuing women you perceive as weaker and then getting upset that they are weaker. And lastly, be very careful about criticizing God's design of women, you presume to know better than He. If you are speaking out of frustration and anger, be honest enough to admit that you yourself are letting your emotions get the best of you. We often don't like to see our own flaws in other people since it becomes a mirror to us. I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

You say 'normal'. You need to realize that women do NOT think like men, and vise versa. Yes, women are more emotional, does that mean men arent normal because they can be cold? Not a fair assumption, is it? You've heard the "men are from Mars...etc". We think differently, period. Usually, it is said that women handle stress better than men. Maybe its just the women you have chosen to be around, subconsciously, that are over emotional and fall apart easily.

Answer 5

in case you have not any reason (like a previous indiscretion) to sense this kind about your hubby i'd say that you're over reacting. i understand ways you sense even with the actuality that, I continually get that little twinge even as my hubby runs right into a good searching female from his previous. i imagine that's in simple terms lack of self assurance on my section that causes this sense. in case you get truly jealous alot you should purpose to paintings on your self esteem and do a touch activities aside out of your husband. i understand it sounds loopy, yet having some type of existence aside out of your husband/kids is sweet for the relationship and for you. Even some thing like an paintings class, moms and dads crew, or volunteer interest will in good structure the bill. you won't be able to sense very good about a relationship in case you do not sense good on your individual epidermis.

Answer 6

Women are like this because of a "man" in their life has messed them up!!! You are having these issues with the ones you have dated because they are not meant to be with you!! keep looking and have fun as the "right" one is out there!!!

Answer 7

American women are spoiled little princesses. I regret that even my own sister is a non-working mom that has a maid to clean house. It's really pathetic, the values of my parents' generation were killed off by the feminazi movement. Go get yourself a European or South American or Asian woman.

Answer 8

If people are finding reasons not to talk to you have you ever considered that it might not be them with the problem?

Answer 9

Not all women are like that.. I'm sorry that you're going through this, but I feel that eventually you will find your soul mate....

Answer 10

hi mr? hehe.. yah ryt about wat u said.. most of us women are really weak in handling and controlling our emotions.. maybe because we are sensitive.. and we loved to be treated as special by our man.. it is our nature to seek the feeling of loved by them, respected by them or maybe you are the only person left who she expects to agree with her thats why maybe she gets disappointed.. man, try to understand womens nature and be more patient.. hehe.. goodluck sir!