Her mother is better looking than his x and I think he did them both, to tell the truth. He even asked if I would mind if the first dance went to Ginger (his x's mother) What do you all think? He said he would make it a fast dance, but I not so sure I can trust his friend who happens to be the DJ. Anyone?
2006-10-03 08:25:06 · 46 answers · asked by elouise54321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is only appropriate if he has some sort of lifetime relationship with both these women. Sometimes people date when they are 15 and then remain friends, but that's the only reason I can think of.
The first dance -- well that detail makes me think you're asking a fake question. Obviously the first dance is with you and the second is with his mom. Unless his mom is dead and this woman is like a mother to him (See above bc he has known her his whole life)
2006-10-03 08:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways you can approach this. Hopefully you have trwo guest lists already an A List (for all the people you really want to be there) and a B List (for those people you can live without being there) if he wants them invited then tell you husband to be that they are on the B list which means they only get invites if someone on the A-list can not attend. Also the first dance should only be between the bride and groom. The second dance is for father-daughter(bride) and mother-son(groom) respectively. No where in wedding traditions or even new age thinking does it say and now the groom dances with his ex girlfriend's mom! You should seriously talk to him and make sure that he knows how you feel on the situation because it can easily ruin a wonderful day.
2006-10-03 09:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Wedding Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you get in his *** when he asked you to have the first dance with anyone besides you also that is so disrespectful to dance with his ex's mother at your wedding what is your family going to think about that I would be looking at you like your stupid for letting him do that. Tell him no his ex and ex mother in law can't come. You need to put your foot down on that. She probably broke up with him and he still has a thing for her and her mom.
2006-10-03 08:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your question. You have the answer. No way honey. Your husband to be(or not to be) has a problem. Not very considerate of your feelings from the beginning. Sign of things to come. Get out of this relationship!! No man in his right mind would ask to bring an ex-girlfriend and her mother to HIS wedding; much less ask you to allow him to have the first dance with his ex-girlfriend's mother!!!! GIRL, WAKE UP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!!
2006-10-03 08:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by say_38_f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. That is fine if he is still friends with the ex and I guess her mother too, but to have the first dance with her is insulting to you and I can't believe he or anyone would think that was okay. I would let him know that this is not okay with you and if he doesn't get it - I think you have some serious thinking to do about getting married to him.
2006-10-03 09:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by bustylaroo99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances should the first dance go to anyone besides the bride and groom.
If he has remained in friendly contact with his ex this whole time, and you've not objected to it before now, then you've no sympathy from me if you're upset they're coming. But the first and last dances are strictly for you and him. If he really wants to dance with ex or ex-mom, maybe you can talk to him about including a dollar dance in your reception and they can pay him like the whore he used to be.
2006-10-03 08:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Katie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would mind if the first dance went to anybody but me. Our only agreed rule was nobody we slept with could be IN the wedding. But any ex's we were still friends with, could be invited. Every invite has to be approved by us both. We can veto anyone but I am not a petty person and I do not do jealousy.
2006-10-03 08:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want the first dance to go to her? What about his parents? Did the x girlfriend mother always been involved in his life, like a mother figure?
I don't think either should attend it doesn't seem right.
2006-10-03 08:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex is the past, I can understand that. And even being close with her family. But to have your first dance be with the ex's mother? Hell No! I hope you put your foot down.
2006-10-03 08:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding? The first dance is between the bride and groom. I can't believe that he asked if it would be ok for him dance with this woman. No way! Put your foot down. This is your wedding (you and your fiance) and you should be focused on making each other happy. I wouldn't be happy to hear my hubby to be wanted to take the first dance for some woman who isn't even going to be famliy to him. Na uh. That's nuts.
2006-10-03 08:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rachael 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋