What should I do???

Question

My husbands ex wife wants to send their kids down the week of thanksgiving normally I wouldnt have a issue with this but..I am due to have our second child on thanksgiving.I know she just doing this out of spite.I dont want them here because its always drama and this is a special time in our lives.what should i say if anything???

Answer 1

That's a really difficult situation. It's really up to your husband to tell her what your wishes are. If he wants them to come for that week (you might be over-due, or they can at least see the new baby) you can get your in-laws to help out with your husband's kids. Be firm and stand your ground with the drama issue. Make sure it is understood that you don't want any of that around you, especially so close to your due date.

Answer 2

First this is your husband and your decision to make together. You both need to sit down and talk about it. Maybe you could say "We would love to have the kids down, but since I am due to give birth that week, we would like to have the kids down after the birth. We would appreciate at least a week of being home with the baby then the kids could come down and meet their new sibling." I understand you wanting this time to yourself, but just because she is being hateful doesn't mean you have too stoop to her level. You can talk it out with your husband and then he should be the one to tell her what you and him have decided. I am sure he would like for his kids to be there at some point. I think them coming a week after the baby's birth would be a good comprosmise. Besides just because you are due at Thanksgiving doesn't mean the baby is coming at Thanksgiving.

Answer 3

you should stay super nice (kill 'em w/ kindness) and just say although you would love too see the children for the holiday, you would be unable to give them all the attention that they deserve because of your pregnancy/labor and they shouldn't come right after the birth b/c babies are more susceptible to germs (kids) offer to have the children spend some extra time during the x-mas holiday or even new year's eve so their mom could go out since you'll be at home w/ a baby anyway - be firm though, you need to be preparing for your labor/delivery and then bonding w/ your new addition - not dealing w/ baby mama drama - good luck!

Answer 4

I'd tell my husband that it just won't be a good idea considering you are due aroung that time- who would watch those kids when you go into labor anyhow? Your hubby must know these things anyhow, he isn't blind. Tell him that if those kids come to stay in your house for Thanksgiving that you're going to go stay at a friend's or your mom's house until they're gone because you want to be peaceful during your last few days pregnant.

Answer 5

I think you should tell your husband exactly how you feel. With him knowing that the new baby is coming and all he should be even more understanding. Who wants to be bother with other kids when your about to bring a new baby home that's going to need you and your husband attention. To me that just common courtesy, But like you said she's doing it out of spite I don't like people like that.

Answer 6

I think it can be quite risky to talk to your husband about it. Talk to his ex-wife instead. Tell her how you feel, and it is a special time in your life and you would like to spend it with your husband. She may spaz, but at least she knows how you feels. If your stuck in that situation, try to enjoy Thanksgiving with his children and share it with them as well.

Answer 7

This is something you need to talk to your husband about. I'm not sure of how your and her relationship is but if I were you I'd leave it to the husband to handle. What you really don't need is something else to stress you out. I'm sure you love your step children very much but try and explain all this to your husband. I'm sure he will understand.

Answer 8

You should talk with your husband and tell him your feelings.