We have been fighting like crazy lately, he's anger level has gotten way out of control. I think he is picking fights with me, I get no attention from him anymore...when I do he is falling asleep on me. Lately I notice that I haven't been recieiving any emails from him and he told me it was because he was too busy at work to send them. Well the other night I was having a bad day because he was being an asshole, and I go to smoke a cigerette outside, and he tells me that when I talk about that i'm unattractive. Then later that night I see that a girl has written him a message on myspace saying thank you. and i ask him for what and he explained that she was sick w/ seizures etc.and he sent her an email and that the reason that was so attractive is b/c she was on crack...(gotten skinny) the next day he sends me a nasty email even though he doesn't have time to send me good one...he also checks my phone and email constantly and was out with his friends this weekend....
2006-10-03 08:04:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't worry about the cheating part. i worry about him being a controlling psycho. He doesn't respect you that's why he talks to you the way he does. He doesn't shower you with compliments. He degrades you and brings you down. Why not leave this jerk and let him treat someone else like that.
2006-10-03 08:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by MommaMia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating, but there is definately a rough spot in your relationship. He may feel like the relationship has been too one-sided and is just now reaching the breaking point. I am like that sometimes-I bend, bend, bend, and then when I reach the breaking point and snap back, which may be confusing for a woman, because she feels like, "I did this before and didn't get this reaction." Just give him some space and maybe send him a short email telling him that you would like to hear his evaluation of your relationship because you feel like you're drifting apart. Give him time to think about what he wants to say to you (I have had multiple girlfriends that would hand me a 10 page 'letter' and expect an immediate response. That is not only too much to expect, but it is also unfair.) Also, be sure to let him know how important it is that he respond. If he blows that off, then kick him to the curb.
2006-10-03 08:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is not treating you nice. And second Yes U should definitely include the posibility that he is cheating. It is a typiclal reaction from a person who "doesnt have clean water in the bucket" (if U know what I mean), To move the focus from himself to you so U are occupied in his suspection. Thats smart but not wise, cause when U feel that he can be cheating , U are most certain right. Thats woman intuition. Use it and decide wheither he is worth to play with your selfconfidence. Because he could break your heart.. Put him on ice if He wont talk about what he is up to. good luck
2006-10-03 08:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, at the beginning I thought that you were me until it got all crazy at the end. My advice? This sounds like a pretty abusive relationship. No one deserves to go through all of that stress and all of those head games...I know it's a lot more easy to give advice than to take it, but try to step outside of things and look in at how unhappy you are. Your gut will not lie...he sounds suspicious to me. If you can't delve into the depths of the truth with each other, there is really no hope. If you can, you can heal. Simple as that. You should be able to tell him your fears and he should be able to comfort you. I feel for you though, sweetheart. Trust me. I'm kind of going through the same thing myself...except we're managing to work through things together slowly. But it takes two.
2006-10-03 08:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to tell if he is cheating, but the fact that he is checking your phone and email makes it sound like he is doing something and thinks you are probably doing it because he is...Why not make up a fake name and identity and start flirting with him via email and myspace and see how he responds and how far you can get him to go? If he gets all excited and wound up about meeting you, and makes up excuses to be away from you the evening you are supposed to meet him, then you can show up and meet him and tell him to get lost. You might be surprised and find that he is telling the truth, but I would not bet on it...
2006-10-03 08:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being this much of an A--hole to you, then it doesn't really matter if he is cheating or not. Dump him and find someone who will treat you right. He is already at the point where he doesn't care and all the fighting and hassles are going to be his excuse for the cheating anyway. Walk away now why you still have your sanity.
2006-10-03 08:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by ray ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to take out the trash!! If he ain't cheating he'll probably start soon by his actions. One thing that really makes me think he is already doing it tho is him keeping close tabs on you even tho yall ain't on good terms. To me it shows his guilt and his worry your doing the same. I went thru this same **** recently. Girl you might as well go ahead and move on cuz it just goes down hill from here and it ain't worh the drama. Cheating or not he still ain't good to you so why not find someone who will be?
2006-10-03 08:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, first off do not jump to conclusions about all this. If you suspect cheating you have to have pretty good proof before you go accussing him because it may push him to doing so.
I caught my partner emailing women and talking to them. So I checked his email got the email address of the women and emailed them myself. Most of them were supprised that he was married and had no problems telling me what they discussed and the manner of the emails and chats. I printed the emails that I had with the women out before I confronted him so that he knew that there was no hiding it and that I had already confirmed my suspiscion and there was no since in denying it.
2006-10-03 08:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, it doesn't matter if he's cheating or not. He's not being good to you, and he certainly isn't any good FOR you. Infidelity is not the only grounds for ending a relationship, and there are several different forms that abuse can take.
2006-10-03 08:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to know if he is cheating on you or not, but the way he is treating you, he isn't respecting you...I think you better save yourself from more pain and heart ache and leave this guy.
I know it is easier said than done, but nobody would love yourself more than you yourself.
2006-10-03 08:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by firedragon_luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋