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Question

When you date a man what do you look for, looks, money, education, and status? Does it matter what the man looks like and how much money he make in a year. I believe that women are taught at a young age to go for the doctors and lawyers. For example, most women would rather date a doctor or lawyer rather then a construction worker. any comments

I want to thank everyone who answered my question. I like so many of the answers I cant pick best answer. I will have to put it to a vote.

Answer 1

Not true...some women were raised with good old fashioned values. We know the only way to be truly happy is to find someone you honestly love and plan to spend the rest of your life with. Yes, being financially stable and being handsome are perks but doesn't make the person.

Answer 2

Well, I'm 21 and currently I am dating what you would probably call a construction worker. He was unemployed when I met him and now is a "construction" worker. I was taught to "keep my options open" and that's what I did. I dated around a lot and found out what qualities I liked in a guy and what I didn't. For instance, I would never date a doctor or a lawyer because I'm a major family person and someone in that kind of occupation would never have time to be a good dad or husband. Yeah, sure we'd have money to do things but I'm a fair believer that money isn't everything. If you got enough to get you by then you've got enough. Chances are if you're having troubles dating you should check out your approach and the way you are coming on to her. Girls WILL NEVER go for the "creep" if you will. My guy is hilariously funny, is interesting with all of his little hobbies ( like camping, woodturning, tropical fish, plants, cooking..) that he is constantly teaching me something new all the time and I love that. Plus, he's a good dancer.. girls LOVE this so if you want to get into the dating scene more.. pick up those dancin' shoes and grab a lady! :O)

Answer 3

When dating a man, all the things you mention matter. Of course, it is up to each individual as to what importance each thing is. As for myself, I would say that there are some horrible people out there who are wealthy, there are some reall empty-headed or selfish people out there who are good-looking, and there are some wonderful, pleasant-looking construction workers.

However, I have to add that there are some construction workers who have a chip on their shoulders about people who have college degrees, and they put down anyone with a profession requiring a degree!

No, women are not all taught that money is the most important thing. But, it certainly does help.

Answer 4

First of all, I am way more into scruffy men....not the well dressed, combed hair doctors or lawyers. Secondly, my husband is a construction worker....they are pretty sexy!

Another note: My family owns a construction business, and let me tell you, there is money to be made if you run a good business. People think that construction workers don't make good money, but that is not true.

Answer 5

Me personally, I go for personality. I was taught don't judge a book by its cover. I would never go for a doctor or a lawyer, sure they are nice and all, but they are just so busy that you could never have a life together it is all work and no play. I am not in a relationship for money I am in a realtionship to be with my husband. Education is nice because you know that you have a job to fall back on, but not important, looks and money are not improtant. and status if they are a criminal and have a record then you that is important (won't go for that).

Good Luck in what you are looking for!!!

Answer 6

When I first saw the guy I'm dating, he was wearing a pair of no brand jeans and a white tee, I had no Idea that he was making $85k/yr! He was just a charming man and I just loved talking to him and going out with him I didn't know how much he made or what he really did until about 6mo into our relationship, and you know what that didn't impress me at all!! I've dated many men with prestigious careers and found them to be the most arrogant people I've ever met, my BF is an exception to that of course!! I've also met men who were plumbers and construction workers who were just as bad!!! I do believe that at one point women were trained to go for the man with money!!! Now because that's obviously not working it's starting to be less and less drilled into our young ladies!!!!! My mom told me not to bring a white boy home and guess what race my BF is!!!??? So I think girls/women are starting to be a bit more rebellious when comes to what their parents are teaching them about dating and men!!!!

Answer 7

I haven't dated for a very long time. I met my husband when I was 17 and it was love at first sight. I was taught to try to go after a successful man, but money has never really been that important to me. I have always been attracted to intelligence and a good sense of humor more than looks or money, though I do consider my husband good looking. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 8

I look for financial responsibility. I wouldn't date a in-debt doctor over a financially responsible construction worker. (Also, doctors generally put their career first, and lawyers work long long hours)
Education is important to me because it means he was able to complete (stick with) something important and considered his future.
I would go for brains over looks any day. Nothing worse than a dumb but pretty man!
As for how much money he makes- many wonderful men aren't rich, but I don't like slackers. He needs to be committed to his work, feel passionate about what he does, and have the character, values, morals and future goals I look for.
I'd date a lowr-paid but high character teacher over some rich sleaze-ball.

Answer 9

I tend to agree with you that most women would rather date a doctor or lawyer because of what they were taught growing up. But then they realize its not enough doctors and lawyers for everyone and start looking at the next highest ranking profession.I personally would rather be with a poor man who treats me with love and respect than a rich man who hasnt anything better to do than take his frustrations out on me. Just my opinion. Thanks for listening.

Answer 10

As for me, money makes no difference. It's always nice when a man can hold his own, but I'm very independant. No amount of money can make me fall for someone I'm not attracted to. Looks and more importantly personality are the closing deal! Shallow women will go for status. It seems you are nice so you don't want that anyway! Good Luck =)

Answer 11

I am married now. However, when I was single, the first thing that attracted me to a man was his hands and his eyes. There must be some sort of physical spark to make you want to find out more about someone. Money isn't everything. I would take a man that was poor and showed that he loved me everyday over a rich man that left me feeling like I was being taken for granted!