I am in a relationship with a BF of 7 yrs. We have had our ups and downs. There are times when I feel like I should leave him because of his verbal abuse. But I stick around b/c I feel like after 7 yrs what else can I do? Before we started dating I was with this sweet, kind and caring guy. I still know his cousin and he tells me that He still asks about me. I guess I still care for him too. We saw each other at the annual fair last week. He smile at me and I at him. He tried to stop me but I didnt... did I do the right thing?
2006-10-03 07:38:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the right thing is whatever you feel in your heart to be right, no matter how hard you try to fight it.
and regardless, you shouldn't be in an abusive relationship, whether verbal or physical.
2006-10-03 07:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship that I wasn't happy w/ for 10 years. I felt like I was in it so long that I was stuck. He moved away for work and I realized I was happier w/out him, even though I was alone. There are so many people out there, most would love to spend time w/ you. You have someone who has an interest in you. Be strong, leave the first man and see what happens. I guarantee you, you won't feel regret. I never have. Even if it doesn't work w/ the new man, you will be open to whoever comes along. You're not stuck, just like I wasn't. It doesn't have to stay like this. You're stronger than you know. Good luck.
2006-10-03 14:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is all within you cause if you felt like u did the right thing then thats great...but listen ive lived with it and verbal abuse most of the time turns to physical abuse and that is not somethin to live with...but if you love each other and he isnt goin to abuse u n ne way shape or form then go with him....but if not stay away and find a good guy
2006-10-03 14:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, all you have to do is realize what's good for you and what makes you happy. if your bf is a verbal abuse type, baby girl, this will go on and on for the rest of your relationship. don't say that after 7 years there is no hope for you. you sounds young and there are lots of guys out there for you. do what is good and right thing for you. think about it.
2006-10-03 14:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. The question for you though is 7yrs with someone. Isn't it time for marriage. IS that your goal to be married and have kids. I would say if he hasn't brought it up yet then why are you wasting your time. I was just wondering because i was in the same situation. Even his own father said to me if he hasn't asked you yet then he never will. That was the last drawl I dumped him shortly after that comment.
2006-10-03 14:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-03 14:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of ur boyfriend. Ur in an unhappy relationship and there are always other options out there. Even if its being single at least you can be and should always be happy with urself before u can be happy with anyone else. Time to move on dear.
2006-10-03 14:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced after 25 years of marraige, and they are doing better for it, so your "after 7 years what else can you do" is a poor excuse to stay. Go try the other guy, life is too long to live for someone else.
2006-10-03 14:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shoulda stoped and talked to him. what hurt could it do? and about your 7 year relationship, if he isnt treating you right, then you have no reason to stick around. you dont deserve to be treated like ****, nobody does. give that old guy a call and see what he has to say. good luck
2006-10-03 14:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by stoned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they normally start out sweet and caring and once they get you they turn into Dr Jeckell and Mr Hyde. Yes you did the right thing, Now get out of this one ! RUN
2006-10-03 14:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋