If you are close to her, would you invite your former mother-in-law to your wedding to another man?

Answer 1

I can't see why not. If she is comfortable and your spouse is okay with the idea. Go for it. Make sure it's known by your spouse

Answer 2

I think it depends on several things...how long were you married to her son? If you were married a long time, and you truly had time to become that close, I would say yes. If not or if the circumstances of your divorce were not good, I would say no. I have only been married 3 years and feel extremely close to my mom in law, but if my husband and I were to split up, I don't think that relationship would continue. Also, it depends on your relationship with your x - how would he feel about it? Would it make more problems than it is truly worth? Are there children involved? Would she be there as your kids grandmother as well as your ex mom in law? Personally, no matter how close I was to her, I don't think I would, but that is just me. If we were that close, I am sure she would understand.

Answer 3

Sure I would, but rather than mail her a formal invitation I'd call her up on the phone or stop by in person first. This way she doesn't feel pressure to say she'll come or send a gift. Explain to her that you know it is an uncomfortable situation for her and that you don't expect her to show if she doesn't wish to do so, but that she is welcomed to attend.

Answer 4

Are you really that close to her? Does your fiance know how you feel? This can get very sticky, especially if it is somehow known what your "former relationship" is to this woman.

If you are that close, first talk to your fiance and *cue daring music* his parents about it. Then talk to your own parents about it, cuz I can imagine that since they know the scoop, they could potentially be just as uncomfortable as your new in-laws. Finally, talk to your former MIL about it. If everyone is comfortable, do yourself a favor and on the day of the event, just call each other "old friends" to save yourself from the gossipmongers.

Answer 5

Ok, When my husband and i got married it was the best day of my life. During the reception i saw the mother of my husbands
x-girlfriend, they dated for about 4 years. I was so shocked. I felt so uncomfortable and it was my wedding. After our honeymoon he told my that she said "I wish you were marring my daughter." that really upset me. I think you should sit and talk to your finance' and see if he would mind. If he says yes he does mind just leave it at that and say I'm sorry for asking, that was stupid of me. Then tell your x-mil the situation and if she really cares about you shouldn't be upset. She should understand.
good luck. And CONGRATULATIONS!! just remember this is your day!!

Answer 6

Absolutely, yes. If she's your friend in addition to being your ex-MIL, then you invite her as a friend. If she isn't comfortable, she can decline, and you'd respect her decision and not chuff her about it, right? So you invite her, without a lot of awkward fuss, and let her decide for herself. She might want to come, after all, and even if she decides not to, it's still nice to be invited, even to parties you can't attend. Good luck!

Answer 7

You can invite any one you want. I do not believe that she would accept be cause she is your x mother in law. It could cause hard feelings with the rest of the guests

Answer 8

Yes

Answer 9

My mom still remains close to my dads mother and still refers to her as "Momma" and my grandmother still loves her as her own daughter. She was there for my mom when her mom died. So if she has no held back feelings from the divorce and accepts the new guy then I think its a good idea.

Answer 10

Sure as long as it doesn't cause conflict between you and your fiance. Also make sure she doesn't still habor false hopes that you and her son may hook back up. You don't want any negative energy at your wedding.