I recently called it quits with my ex and I would like for us to be civilized friends, but everyone says that you can't be friends with your ex-boyfriend.
2006-10-03 07:15:37 · 35 answers · asked by prettyinpink8604 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU CAN BE FRIENDS, BUT IT DEPENDS ON THE REASONS OF BREAKING UP AND THE WAY U DID IT. I SEPERATED MY HUSBAND YEAR AND A HALF AGO, BUT E R GOOD FRIENDS STILL. THAT'S AFTER 3 YEARS TOGETHER, PLUS WE HAVE A SON TOGETHER!
2006-10-03 07:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer and one that only you can determine. How do you feel when you're around him. Is it very uncomfortable? Then maybe you cannot be friends. It also depends how long you were together. A week? You can probably chalk up the experience to bad judgement and still be friends. 6 1/2 years including a baby and an engagement then he dumps you? Then most definitely no, unless you enjoy having your heart ripped out and stomped on every time you see him. Get my gist? Since you are the gal calling it quits with him, and you want to be friends, you are already on the road to being friends. Who is everyone who is telling you that you can't?
2006-10-03 07:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by elananor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were just dating the person and broke up . there should be no reason you cannot still be friends .... If you were married and divorced then you need to hold some kind of decorum to be civil to each other since children are involved. but to acutally call him a friend. No you should not be that close enough to still call him a friend . there is a reason you divorced in the first place. Move on do not try to patch things up or you will mess up the next relationship your in.
2006-10-03 07:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true you can be friends with your ex...Depending on why you broke up in the first place, if you were friends before you were a couple, and if the other person is willing to be friends. For some people it works for some it's just too weird and doesn't work out well at all. Every situation is different.
2006-10-03 07:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely disagree, you can be friends with your ex's, provided you are both mature and the relationship ended civilly. I am friends with the majority of my ex's... In fact I even hung out with one and his new girlfriend. (Mind you that was uncomfortable and I don't forsee any future need to do it again.) Regardless, just because you weren't meant to be together romantically does, by no means, mean you can't still be friends. It takes work and a bit of compassion, but it certainly is possible.
2006-10-03 07:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you can't. can barely be friends with an ex husband who you have kids with. Plus if you get in a new relationship and you are friends with ex they will try to interfere and your new partner might feel uncomfortable with you being friends with your ex considering y'all had a past together. Forget the ex..
2006-10-03 07:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy are they wrong!!! Yes you can be friends if you and him want to be ..That is one of the best friendships you can have as long as you both can deal with each other moving on with their life. One of my best friends is a ex-boyfriend of mine and we dated for 5 years he is married now and so am I and I would not ever want to lose his friendship..we still talk all the time and if one of us have a problem we will call each other to raise our spirt back up ..
2006-10-03 07:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by browneye_ky_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people want to do that. Being civil is expected, but being friends just isn't necessary. Think about how that affects your future relationships...would you want your new boyfriend hanging around his ex? Probably not.
2006-10-03 07:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO
its wayy to much baggage and wayyy tooo much drama!! Move on, its best not to be.. its an aweful idea. Ive tried staying Friends with my ex's a few times, and trust me, its only made it worse - cause the dude will almost always either try and take advantage of your friendship or take you for a ride. Its best to move on and forget them totally..
2006-10-03 07:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with my ex husband becaue that was all we hd in our relationship any way. I did not remain friends wtih the love of my life because it would have been too awkward.
2006-10-03 07:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋