What should I think and do?

Question

This is basically my question, I met someone about a week ago. And for starters, I really wasn't into him. But after talking for a week, our personalities clicked and I became interested. We seemed to both be interested in the same things, and he told me that he was suprised that he met someone like me because he was extremely picky, so he said he was excited. Anyways we hung out over the weekend and everything went perfect. We had great conversation, similar interests and had a lot to talk about. We even talked about making future plans. Overall the night went better than expected, and there were no signs of any interest lost. Now its the 4th day and hes not calling? I'm just wondering what I should think? Its been a long time since I have been in the dating field because I was in long relationships and maybe I just don't know how to handle it, and I definitely dont wanna scare him off, so im trying to be as "go with the flow" as I can. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thx!

I appreciate all the answers I got! Thanks a lot guys. The thing is, I think I left something at his house..so on sat, I called and asked and he didnt answer..then I sent a text and he was kinda short with me saying he was tired. So I left it alone all the way until last night, I text and told him I had a good time, and if he ever wanted to get together again to let me know and we could defintely have a great friendship. Thats about it...and still no response. So I'm almost at the point where I'm gonna say screw it, because number 1, I told him that I don't wanna play games, before we even hung out...and that I like when people are straight up with me. So he obviously knows I'm interested, and it kinda sucks because if he thinks hes gonna call me next fri or sat at 1-2am to hang out after we're home from the bar, hes wrong! I just don't wanna deal with the games! Even if he would text me back and say I'm not interested or I need some time to myself...just dont leave me hangin!

I have been the one communicating, it's easy for me to tell people how I feel. I am a great talker, great listener, advice and great at reading people. Hes just not the one communicating back to me! Even if its to say IM NOT INTERESTED. I dont care what it is! Just say something! lol

Answer 1

Give him some time. At the beginning of a relationship, neither of you should be committed yet. He most likely does not want to 'set the tone' of calling you too often, because the frequency will likely increase as your commitment to each other does. Just give it time and don't put any pressure on him to commit earlier than he wants to. Remember that, at this point, he is not your boyfriend. If you say something like, "why didn't you call me sooner," you will likely scare him off. You should continue to 'play the field' until you are committed to one another.

Answer 2

Communication is the answer here! If nobody talks over what they are feeling, or wanting, then nothing will get accomplished. Maybe he got overloaded at work or something. If you don't call and ask how will you know? I suggest calling him and inviting him out to diner, a sports event, or whatever else you may have in common with him. Tell him up front that you are interested in talking about this situation that is otherwise bothering you. Friendships are a warm fuzzy, but relationships, or dates are yet another thing; and love is all based on how well you and your mate can communicate your desires, wishes and hopes. How many times have you noticed that a great couple can finish each others sentences, pour the wine just at the right time, light the others cigarette, whatever. You know what it is like to feel the oneness of the pair, communicate and all will come full circle for you.
Good Luck

Answer 3

Yes Holly and you are not going to believe this but I swear on my father's grave (which I don't like to do unless I really need people to trust me on a matter). That is here and now! I had the same thing happen to me 2 weeks ago. However, my deal turned out where this man could eat my sh/t! Do you hear (well I know can't hear me). But do know where I'm coming from! Girl he is 13 years younger then me. I've got 2 grown boy and girl. He has 4. He's divorced and I'm a widow. But we met the same way you met your friend. Been knowing him but I wasn't interested and we were talking one day, same interest the whole 9 yards! He calls me constantly, he text messages me while he's at work and I'm at work. He lives right next door to me so he gets off early and he can't wait for me to get home. You know why? Let me tell you why. #1 Please women stop sucking up to these men. #2 Make them kiss your a*s for a change. #3 Be assertive #4 Make sure you let them know that you are spoiled. #5 While they're kissing your a*s, make them eat your sh/t too! Do all of that after you have given them the best sex they've ever had in their lives! Ok I know it was kind of soon but it was safe, it was freaky and it turn his a*s out! And this Friday I'm putting on a one piece fishnet jumpsuit with 5 inch heals and we're going to have strawberrys, coolwhip and other goodies. I wanted to break out the whip and possible chains but I haven't told him about that yet! Girl please no game no shame! What do I care how many people read this. If you want to keep you man ladies do what turns him on. If he gets testy later, and you worked his a*s hard enough, he'll be back! Not all men are dogs honey, you just need to be the one doing the barking!

Answer 4

I'm a little confused, what do you mean its been the 4th day? You mean he hasnt called in four days? That could be a bad sign, but I would call him tonight and see whats going on. If its been 4 days of seeing each other and he hasnt called today, then I wouldnt stress. If its been the 4th day since he hasnt called, feel free to email me with more questions.

Answer 5

you might have to grasp this harsh reality,but some times some people will just say the things that they think you want to hear just to get what they want after that they distant themselves from you i would suggest you do not call him either, treat it as a one time date to see if you were still in the game and if you bump into him on the street,if he say hi just say and pretend the night did'nt even happend he might be just hunting and the hunter has moved on to his next prey.

Answer 6

Just be patient...there are a lot of reasons for him not to call every day. Don't expect a weekend to turn into another long relationship in one weekend...it will take a while to build, and you can't rush it.

Answer 7

Is it likely that you will see him again? If so just wait until you see him and continue to talk with him. Chances are if he's that picky and he was excited to meet you-- you'll be on his mind. He may just want to see how you tempermant/disposition is.... if you're the type to start calling him excessively etc. Just give it time.

Answer 8

I think you are absolutly right don't scare him off but don't wait around either. Go out have fun if he calls great if he doesn't then at least you didn't get heartbroken.

Answer 9

Just relax! if its meant to be, it will happen.....love comes when you least expect it and when you dont expect it. Be like you said and go with the flow...no need to rush into anything.

Answer 10

well, u could wait!! best idea, but if u like him, just send him a simple text wondering whether he would like to meet up again.. or something like that! he might be shy?? if u dont try u will never know!!

good luck