A co-woerker set me up with a friend's brother. He seemed nice just hearing about him, but after talking to him myself, I'm not thrilled with the idea. I graduated from College with 2 degrees, and he was telling me on the phone last night that he didn't pass a math class 3 times. He kept asking me questions, and then before I had a chance to explain my response, cut in. He just seemed somewhat ignorant, and I feel that we're really opposite. I just feel that I need someone more mature, and don't want to waste his or my time just going out with him for the sake of it, but I don't want my co-worker to be upset with me either, because she's so excited. Should I cancel the date, or go anyways and say "thanks but no thanks" later? HELP!
2006-10-03 07:07:21 · 18 answers · asked by GLSigma3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may have been really nervous talking to you on the phone. And, some people just aren't math people, myself included. I would go. It's only 1 date. You never know, it could be better in person. Then, if there is no chemistry there, you don't have to go again and you can tell him and your co-worker that he was very nice, but you just didn't click or something else along those lines
2006-10-03 07:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by bmbg2577 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. I cancelled a "set up" date after talking to the person too. I also felt that the guy was too ignorant for me. He also didn't "get" my sense of humor and was very dry. If I was bored with a 5 minute phone conversation how was I suppossed to survive a several hour date?
Maybe you should try speaking to him on the phone ONE more time and see if maybe he was just nervous. If you feel that there is ABSOLUTELY no connection after that, I would cancel and explain why. Be truthful, don't make something up though.
2006-10-03 07:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be open minded...
if u don't go out w/ him because he didn't pass a class 3 times, it's kinda snobby (no offense). did he eventually graduate from college, or does he have an ok job now?
perhaps he cut in cuz he's "so excited"..since i'ts thru a friend, u kinda need a Good reason not to go out w/ him. maybe if u meet him, he'll give u a great reason not to like him, and ur friend could hardly disagree..but if he is a nice enough guy, at least u can make an acquaintance? meeting someone doesn't have to mean a real "relationship"...=T.
2006-10-03 07:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee thats a tough one! I think you already know the answer of that one, dont you? Yes you need to cancel that date, fast! He seems like he is rude by cutting in on your conversation and not on an equal intellectual level. I wold explain to your co-worker that you dont feel like he is someone that your not interest, without being insulting. Just get one of your GFs and go see a movie.
Good Luck!
2006-10-03 07:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go on a date. Then you can tell your co-worker that you gave it your best. Everyone deserves a second chance. Please though go in with an open mind and forget about the conversation you had with him. It was the first impression that is scaring you away. Sometimes the first impression isn't so great for some people. Good luck!
2006-10-03 07:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The correct way I believe is to tell your blind date that you are not interested in a relationship, that way there would be no "expectations" if any, from either party. You can still be nice and go on the "date" per say, but that way you wont be worried about losing face with the person that set you up to on the date to begin with, and you wont "brake his heart" by leading him on.
Honesty is always the best policy.
2006-10-03 07:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by spanishflyin_tx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting first impression. Maybe he has 5 degrees and wanted to know how you would react. I have done this before. I think it childish for someone to think badly about someone because they think they are smarter. Bad form. However, my spiel does not mean anything go with your gut feeling and don't forget there are two types of smart.
2006-10-03 07:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with everyone involved. Tell him you simply don't feel the chemistry is there, and tell your friend the same thing. Don't make her mad and tell her what a bozo he is, you have to work with her after all! What looks good to one person rarely looks good to another. Being fixed up just doesn't seem to work very often.
2006-10-03 07:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's already cutting you off after asking a question - he's not interested in getting to know you. Don't waste your time.
2006-10-03 07:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by trueblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋