My bf and I been dating for 6 months now and things are good. We fought every weekend when we got started but things are getting better. The other days, he told me he loves me but I don't feel the same way. I still think of my ex bf often and in my mind, letting my ex go was a big mistake. I still love my ex and will always will, but I'm with my new bf and I can't seem to fall in love with him. He's great, sweet, kind, caring and more and we've talked about getting married but the back of my head, i'm still wishing i'm still with my ex. Reason why i'm not with my ex is because he went to work in China and wont be seeing him for the next couple of years and I couldnt handle that...
Now i'm wondering if I could ever fall in love with my current bf, and it's wrong of me to stay with him even though I dont love him...yet.....
2006-10-03 06:56:58 · 15 answers · asked by tomgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, you still have many feelings for your ex-boyfriend that you haven't completely worked through yet. This is the biggest obstacle between you and your new boyfriend. You could love him if your mind weren't still focused on your ex. It appears you are so busy thinking about what you have lost and no longer have that you can't let yourself be happy with what you have.
It takes time to heal wounds. Truthfully, it might have been better if you had worked this all out before you entered another relationship, but do not worry. You will get over your ex eventually. Give your new relationship more time. Once the hurt of what you've lost is healed, you will be able to see what a wonderful life you have now and you will feel those deeper feelings that you haven't quite connected to yet with your present boyfriend.
2006-10-04 04:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! Well I understand what you mean, tough Im a bit young for that sort of stuff, I have some thoughts about it.
You said your current boyfriend is great, 6 monthsn can seem a long time but the main thing is chemistry between you. If you do not feel that you want to be with him at this moment, it could come later, give it time. But I think you should've had some time to cool down, be alone for a while before you get another bf.
Don't fall into trap to stereotype the guys on your ex-boyfriend, that's the worst thing you can do. Every person is unique and you should give more time with your boyfriend, time is best thing for the problems you have.
I wish you best of luck, Wolfy.
2006-10-03 07:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by lone_wolf_time_to_change 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd think that after 6 months you would have some feeling for him. If there is nothing there for him then I would have to say let him go. It's not fair to him. Why don't you just date until your x comes back? You shouldn't get into a serious relationship if you are currently wanting your ex. I hope this helped. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-03 07:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel as though u still love your ex and u think about him constantly, then u need 2 b with him. U can't stay with someone who u know you'll never love. U need 2 let him go b4 it goes any farther
2006-10-03 07:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by bronco_cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love him and love your ex, then you shouldn't be with your bf. I was in a situation like that, my bf loved me and I didn't. I stayed with him cause I thought I could fall in love, but I didn't and then it was just very hard to break it uo cause he really loved me. You can't force yourself into falling in love, it should just happen. It can happen with your bf....but you say you are in love with your ex....and I don't think you can love two people at once, at least not the same way.
2006-10-03 07:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by allie_p15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell do people who are only DATING each other get into fights all the time?
Isn't dating supposed to be about fun? About hanging? Maybe even sex?
If I was dating someone I fought with all the time I'd leave - that's not much fun!
FP
2006-10-03 07:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is defintely tough. Your ex has moved on without you, if he loved you sooo much he should've stayed with you. He left you empty handed with no options. It may take you a very very long time to get over him. Im in a relationship now, for almost 2 yrs, i miss my ex too.. Try not to compare the men and give'em a chance. You will get over this in you own way.
2006-10-03 07:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him not to waste his love on you.Tell him he has a special someone and ur not his.tell him hes a great person,but u dont love him as more than a friend Good Luck!
2006-10-03 07:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL TIME IS TISSUE AND IF U WANT TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT WITH HIM SPEND A LITTLE TIME TOGETHER FIND OUT THE THINGS THAT YOU BOTH HAVE IN COMMON AND TRY TO AVOID CONFLICTS AGREE WITH HIM AND HE WILL AGREE WITH YOU WOMEN FIND THAT SPENDING MORE TIME WITH A NEW PERSON CAN ALTER THE THOUGHTS OF HER PAST RELATIONSHIPS
2006-10-03 07:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by tenairmurphy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋