is it a good idea to get engaged at 22? cause he is talking about having a child and getting married should that convince me that it is time to take the step when offered, although am not where am supposed to be in terms of finance
2006-10-03 06:53:40 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that if the love is there and you respect and trust each other then there is no wrong time to get engaged. But if the finances are bad then just stay engaged for a while in order to get them straightenedout.
2006-10-03 06:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Karla K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 and had 3 kids by 22. Just had another recently. Been married for 10yrs. You are going to have some hard times but everyone does. Only you can decide when is right for you. I do wish we had more time together before the kids came, but wouldn't change it now. We can go where ever we want in our 40's because the kids will be pretty much on their own. Some people start late, and aren't around for their kids graduations. No one is promised tomorrow, I know but my chances are better if I am a younger parent. Ha,ha Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-10-03 07:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by tabbikat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 22 years old I had just graduated from college and then I was looking for contract work overseas. From the age of 22-30 years old I had recieved contract work from all over the world, which I completed very successfully. I had such a wonderful experiance with my life that I decided at about 30-31 years old that I wanted to finally settle down and have a family. Well, I have a great husband and now we are trying to get pregnant. I guess what I am trying to say, is that you never know where life will take you in terms of career, friends, future spouses and travel.
2006-10-03 07:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get married when you are a) ready to make a commitment b) when your finances allow you to (ie. NO debt, etc.) c) when you are ready to potentially have a baby
You can have an engagement that lasts as long as you want. You don't have to get married in 1 year...You can get married sooner or later than that. Some people have a short engagement, some people have an engagement for 7 years.
You should talk to your boyfriend about having a child. It's a big step and responsibility and y'all need to think about that.
2006-10-03 07:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 19 when I Got engaged, and my husband and I got married before I turned 20.
If you are having financial issues, just because you are getting engaged doesn't mean that you have to get married within a year. My cousin is engaged, and she and her fiance aren't getting married til may of '09. You can get engaged, and set the date for 2, maybe even 3 years down the road, that way, you will have time to get your finances in order before you decide to have kids or anything. Plus, setting the date farther down the road will give you lots more time to plan everything out so it is perfect.
2006-10-03 07:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Genny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Engaged at 22 is fine as long as both persons involved are truly emotionally ready. I was married at 22 years of age to an 18 year old female. This resulted in a 22 year old male who was ready for a marriage and a 18 year old female who eventually realized that she was not. This ended up in a divorce and one child caught in the middle.
THINK! There is no real need for marriage right NOW and no problem with an engagement offering your love as long as there is no committed marriage and conception date forcing one or the other involved parties into something that they are TRULY unsure of.
2006-10-03 07:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by GMSlade 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you get engaged does not mean you have to get married right away. Talk to him and let him know what you want to do before you get married. The two of you need to have a plan. I was getting divorced at 22. Take it slow if you are not ready to get married.
2006-10-03 06:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and I'm getting married next year, in which I will be 22! Our family will consist of 4 children, and we have already bought our first home. He makes twice as much money as I do but that's okay because I'm still bringing in something! My mom and other nay sayers have been telling me I'm too young and not ready but I am, I believe he will love me forever and I will do the same!!! We've been through some really rough times!!!!! I believe I'm ready for this!!! If you're going to get married don't stop yourself due to your age!! I'M NOT!!
2006-10-03 09:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey When I was 22 I had 2 babies and 1 on the way. You are asking the wrong question and to the wrong people. Question to you is. Do you love him? enough to be with him forever? Now make you decision
P.S. married 32 yrs
2006-10-03 10:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by careermom18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think about getting married at 22, you have to really ask yourself that. Don't let him convince you to do anything that you do not want to do. Are you ready to be with that person now and forever at the age you are, do you think it is going to work, are you ready to have a baby, just think of the words FOREVER.
2006-10-03 09:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋