I asked numerous questions about a guy who, like I said, gave me the impression that he really liked me, we used to txt each other a lot (he used to text me stuff like he's thinking of me all the time etc...) The Saturday before last, we were supposed to meet up but I really had to cancel, I apologised but he's gone all funny, rubbing things in my face and then started completely ignoring me. I got really really upset over it. Yesterday, one of his colleagues (nice guy who I get on well with) asked me out for a drink after work - so I went - no more, no less, just a drink. Well since then the first guy has been sending me txts and e-mails. He's still on my mind but part of me says no because he's been horrible. Shall I ignore him? Txt him back? What's your advice?
Thanks
2006-10-03 06:52:55 · 14 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
going out with that other guy made him jealous. he may really like you, or he may just want to see if he can get you now that he sees competition (even though you don't think going out with that guy was date, your guy does). he may have been burnt in the past by girls who broke their word a lot and may lump you into that crowd. if you really like him, i would talk to him. explain that you had a valid reason to cancel, that you do like him, but his behavior after you cancelled hurts your feelings and will not be tolerated in the future. if you don't like him, ignore him.
2006-10-03 07:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes only texting you now because he realised you may have moved on.
A genuinely nice guy that was interested wouldnt have been throwing things at you for having to cancel on meeting up - this guy is just seriously immature and spoilt by the sounds of it.
Give him a dose of his own medicine and ignore his texts now - let him come crawling after you for a change.
I dont think he likes you in the way you like him so Id aim my affections for the guy you went out with yesterday! xx
2006-10-04 06:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After cancelling the date, did you make another one with him or did you just say "I will ring you ok?" If you dropped him, he needs to know you are still interested and you putting the effort in and arranging the next meet up would have eased his mind. His reaction is just him trying to act like he is not bothered by it all but his reaction just shows he is cut up about it.
Your first stop is to talk to him and find out what is wrong, before you start arranging "social dates" with other people. Also how horrible has he been? Is it just his reaction to being dropped by you or is he really being nasty. If someone is that emotional insecure that they have to act like that then maybe you were not really the best couple. Like I said, just talk to him and you can see by his reaction what kind of person he is.
Don't text him to chat, talk face to face. Be prepared to listen to what he has to say about it all and see what he really feel like inside. Then you can make your choice.
2006-10-03 14:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Raide UK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His is kinde immature!! But maybe he was really hurt..? if u like him u couldgive it a go, and just see where it goes.. But if u work with him it might not be such a great idea (if u break up with him..dont know how much ure work means to u, although i am dating someone at work, but he is a bit more mature!) Anyway tell him what he did, so he understands that what he did wasnt okay and that u wont put up with that type off behaviour!! And see what he says...
Good luck!!
2006-10-03 14:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the jealous and immature type. Best to stay away. He is showing that he doesn't trust you and it may get worse before it gets better. Many fish in the sea. Don't settle for less than the best!!!
2006-10-03 13:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If guy number 1 is treating you like this, isn't it telling you something
Your have said sorry, but he still cant except it and he still treating you this way. Its his problem not yours. walk away. Get your friends together and go and have some fun, you never know who you might meet on a night out.
2006-10-03 15:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him if he really liked you in the first place he wouldv'e understood your reasons for not being able to make the first date.
How do you know he's not jealous that you went out with the other guy and is trying to break that friendship up. Ditch him gal he ain't worth the trouble xx
2006-10-03 13:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by emzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget about the first guy he really needs to grow up + get a life if he's going to act like tha over something petty......you dont need someone like that in your life that will take the nip everytime something comes up tha he doesnt like......they always want what they cant have!!!!....its a true saying, so stick to your guns + ignore him.....dont waste precious time thinking about what could have been when he acts like a kid!
good luck
x.niks.x
2006-10-04 07:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by lil niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of MEN: THEY ALWAYS WANT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE!!! So since he found out about you and the other guy now he wants you. If you can tolerate all that childish behavior- then yea, go back to the first guy... But I wouldnt.
2006-10-03 13:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Such a guy who does not want to understand you and your condition is not the right one.. Ignore him and find a more polite one who cares for your feelings and understands you..
2006-10-03 14:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋