Im feeling really sad that I have no partner?

Question

Im a 21 year old girl, Ive never had a boyfriend I ve liked boys, and no boy has ever had the guts to ask me out its not just that

my mum wouldnt allow me to have a boyfriend plus Ive got to marry a man from my religion, I was inlove with this boy and I know hes not my religion however he acted strangely and I ignored him,

but for some reason its been some time now and I really feel gutted not having anyone , and the thing is I dont even know how to find a guy from my religion where I live there aint guys of my religion, and I still have feelings for the boy I igonred and feel why I did that to him, but I feel I was right ad he was behaving bad with me, but I feel so stupid

Im seruious I went college concentrated in collgege and got good result which is good thing, but I feel so sad that I have no one

I feel life is pointless, I feel so alone and weak maybe I am

I want help and dont know what to do

Answer 1

Wait
for a good fate.

Don't be hasty
otherwise you will be wasty.

Get help from you Mom
to choose a handsome Tom!

I think you liked it
not completely but a little bit.

Answer 2

Um.. The religion thing is very strict. I can't give you a definite answer because I have no such problem.

But if religion keeps you away from guys especially if they are not in the same religion it will be hard. If you say there no guys in your area from the same religion than you won't hav one simple as that.

The guy you dumbed because he was behaving badly in your view was more then likely influenced from your religious point of view and it goes all the way into your up bringing.

You must make a choice: continue go with your religon, listen to your parents and hope one day meet the guy from same religion or try and go off your religion and find some guy. You know there are a lot of good guys out there they are not necesserely from same religion as you but they will respect you for who you are and what you belive in.

Hope that helps, Wolfy.

Answer 3

Sall, Do you live in the UK ?. If so (trust me) you don't HAVE to marry a man in your religion. If you're over 18 you can marry whoever you like (it's the law !) If you're from an immigrant community, politely remind your parents that when they (or their parents, etc) decided to move to Britain, they MUST have realised that things were going to change. If you have some girlfriends that are confident enough to approach a young man on your behalf, and introduce you, that might be the way forward.
Or you could, in a humourous way, approach one of your male aquaintances from work or college, and say something like; ''If you're thinking of asking me out, don't be shy, I won't bite !''. If that's too much, a smile directed at someone you like can work miracles.Your'e 21, this can be a beautiful time of life, so spread your wings (no matter who tries to stop you) Life isn't pointless, life's to be lived, your way. Best wishes to you.
PS. The person who called you ugly is a moron, ignore.

Answer 4

First of all girl, you are not alone here.

I am not religious, but I am in a similar path as yours and not having too much luck with girls. I am 23 and I havent been in a serious relashionship either.

It is common that when youve been single for a certain amount of time, you can feel depressed and alone. I think you are worrying to much and trying to hard to find someone.

I can understand that you would prefer to find someone of the same religion as you, but you shouldnt be judgemental when 'picking' somebody.

My advice is to be patient with this stuff. Just enjoy yourself and do things you like. Someone will come along, and will accept you for who you are.

I cope by doing things I enjoy, and I strongly believe some girl will cross my path. Be patient!!

Dont worry about it, and good luck!!!

Answer 5

I guess the first thing that you have to do is accept the fact that you have to be with someone from your religion. Or do you accept that? See, that's the real issue here. Until you know what you want for your self no one else can even be apart of your life. What if you met "Mr. Perfect" tomorrow? What if he was your religion? What if he wasn't? That's where you have to start sweetie. You aren't weak. Just haven't formed an opinion to be strong about yet.

Answer 6

You're feeling sad and bad about the lost friend because you have had no one else to replace him with, as soon as you date others you will soon forget about him, or at least not feel quite so bad. You don't say what religion you are or whether now you have finished your education that your parents will let you date. try asking the question again with more details, like what religion you are whether you want a serious friendship or just friends.. lots of people here to help if they can

Answer 7

Maybe you should try to forget the religion bit. It sounds as though you've been thoroughly indoctrinated by (at least) your mum. Time, at 21, to leave and start to live and think for yourself.
As for the lack of a boyfriend, Don't worry about it. The less you worry, the more likely it is that something will happen.

Answer 8

If you have got £10,000 then you surely will have them rolling in because of it but religion plays a sad part for you, you need to be more open about it as religion is the causes of war, I am not against any-ones religion at all,I think the world should be at peace and just get on with life as we only have one life okay

Answer 9

You know what dont feel bad lot of people go through being lonely. The secret is you have to love your self. How can you love someone else if you dont to your own? Second if you have to find someone who is your religion then it will be a wait. I would say forget religion and do what makes you happy because isnt that what you want to be happy?

Answer 10

You haven't mentioned which religion you are. As you obviously have access to the internet, have you tried online dating? There are lots of sites out there that are religion-specific or a lot of them have selectable religion buttons for the type of person you are looking for. I'm registered with uniform dating which is a really friendly site worth checking out.

I do hope you find what you are looking for.

Answer 11

I'm sorry things have not gone well for you. I can only suggest that you are artificially limiting your options by enforcing a religious prejudice on yourself. While you ought not change your own beliefs in order to be with someone, your insistence that others must have those beliefs in order to date you is probably eliminating lots of possibilities that you might be happier if you explored. You might wish to marry someone of your own religion, but if you apply that limitation to everyone you could date, then you might be confusing your short- and long-term objectives and disserving your own wishes. Hang in there, though. Good luck.