First off, I want to state that this isn't ME..it's a single friend's situation.
Okay, so, situation is:
You get into a purely physical relationship. And it is stated that from the beginning - a booty call friend.
When one of you calls it off. The other says "Well, when you want to start hooking up again - let me know." and the reply you get is "I think you are being selfish about this whole thing."
She, of course, wasn't expecting this reply. Did he start to feel something? Because that's what those types or relationships are - selfish, yes?
2006-10-03 06:27:43 · 7 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like the feelings of one changed in the middle of the physical relationship, but he didn't let her know that he'd changed. If they both agreed to the physical-only relationship (which is just silly to me anyway) then it's not selfish. If things changed for him, he should have said so instead of just breaking it off. She can't help it if her feelings didn't change.
Just a bad deal altogether.
2006-10-03 06:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he thought that he was doing all the work and she got more out of it. Now she is cutting him off and he feels like he should have gotten more.
But your theory is ok, I just can't figure out how not wanting to hook up any more is selfish and how that would help him get back into her bed.
2006-10-03 14:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st selfish has nothing to do w/this situation... if they're calling it off it's for a reason and if it was good to the other party then what is wrong w/saying when u want to hook up again let me know.. hell it's no strings sex.. who wouldn't want that....
if ur friend can't handle it she needs to keep her legs closed...
2006-10-03 13:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats it it was just a booty call..meant purely for selfish reasons on both parts....it does sound like the other person was getting more involved....
2006-10-03 13:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by turner32542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it means this!
hey i think it is cool that you have found a relationship! and it's cool that you don't want to cheat!
I don't think it's going to last long so when it's over i'm hear for you! we can continue to have our back up!
it's not really selfish if your friends with benifits! it's just letting someone know that your there for them when things go sour and if that to me isn't selfish!
good luck
Mad luv
2006-10-03 13:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is still a booty call, only now he is trying to guilt trip for more
2006-10-03 13:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't confuse sex with anything else. you think a guy who pay for sex is staying up thinking how the ho is feeling.
sex is just sex. if she want a real relationship then you may have to ...do some "thinking" about her own life and behavior. god forbet
2006-10-03 13:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋