ive accepted that my oldest son is gay, but does he have to bring his boyfriend over for dinner?
first of all, i dont know what to cook for that type... and i certainly dont want my younger son getting any ideas (or joining)
2006-10-03 06:26:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You forgot to mention that your son's boyfriend is a different color. That would've cleared up some of the answerers' confusion and there obviously wouldn't hae been so much anger.
2006-10-03 08:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dialup, Avatar, Jones!™ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if you have truly accepted your son, you wouldn't have a problem with any one he invited over for dinner. Secondly, what do you mean by "that type", the only "type" he is is hungry!Feed him the same thing everyone else is eating. Lastly, your younger son will only get the idea that it is more than OK to accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. One is born gay not turned! You should really be ashamed of yourself.
2006-10-03 13:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Grace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very good that you have accepted the fact that your son is gay, and I know that had to be very hard for you to do. Now since you have accepted it you will have to deal with the your son's boyfriend coming over. Gay people are just like everyone else and they will eat what everyone else eats. As for your son, just talk to him and let him know that the way his brother is living is not the RIGHT way (in my eyes). Tell him how you feel about the way his brother is living.
2006-10-03 13:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by geraldine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it does not mean you have to have him over for dinner. I have a gay sister and I have never accepted the fact that she is gay and i will never accept it and either will the rest of my family. I still LOVE her very much that has not changed one bit. I talk to her girlfriend when I go over, but that is about how far as it goes. My sister has never once did anything like kissing her in front of us. Her oldest son, (yes, she has 2 boys, only been gay for 2 years or so) thought he was giong to be gay and thought by solving that problem by wanting to get a girl pg. We all have told him no, that is not the way we solve that. He has realized he is not gay and won't be. Be nice to him just like you would do his girlfriend. Treat him with respect.
2006-10-03 13:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have not accepted it obviously and you are homophobic. You are no different then a racist. You should also be aware that being gay is not a choice or a club a person joins. People dont just turn gay. If your younger son is straight, he will remain straight.
2006-10-03 13:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "for that type"? you are ignorant if you think that gay people only eat certain types of foods. You should love & accept your son no matter what, & it doens't sound to me like you're accepting him. Your younger son is his own person & needs to learn to accept diversity, if he's gay too it will naturally happen whether he sees gay people or not. I feel sorry for the way that you think.
2006-10-03 13:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?!!!!! You are really CLOSED minded...Yeah..you accept your son's choice...what to cook for "THAT TYPE?!" I'm sure food would be a GOOD start!!! AND just because one child is gay doesn't mean it will RUB off on the younger...and it's not a club to be joined...get your head out of your ***!!!
2006-10-03 13:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just cook something yummy that everyone likes. Let your younger son come to terms with it himself, and if he comes to you for guidance (he probably will), just answer his questions in the most honest and straightforward way possible; talk about how you feel, but don't give your younger son a reason to dislike the older one.
2006-10-03 13:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by يا حسين 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...
what do you cook for other "types" of people? Do you have a segregated cookbook for blacks, asians, latinos, too?
I think those "types" of people eat burgers, steaks, fish, just like you.
About your younger son..."joining". Good God woman! Do you think your younger son will be gay by reverse-osmosis?
You need to speak to a family counselor or other professional.
2006-10-03 13:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.Know-It-All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE your son for who he is. Let him bring his boyfriend over. Cook them what you would cook anyone else comming over for dinner. I certainly hope your younger son doesn't become as closed minded as you........
2006-10-03 13:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋