I am a guy and wana propose to my best friend, but I am looking for not so serious relationship…how shall I tell her tht same, when I propose her?
I wana tell her to have an not so serious relationship with me and maybe if we later think that we are better off as friends, we get back together as friends at a later stage and dissolve the relationship thing completely.
See I wana go for the relationship with her, even if I not sure about my feelings or whatever…. I just wana see how far I can go… and yes No-sex is gona be involved in all this....
So tellme what will be the right thing to say and make her understand my feelings/my views in an not so offending manner
2006-10-03 06:23:57 · 14 answers · asked by Romps 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guyz, I am not talking about Marriage !
2006-10-03 06:30:09 · update #1
You need to get your head on right. She's your best friend, leave it at that. You say no sex, but sounds to me like you want to ease into something with the option to duck out when you feel like it. Grow up and then think about a relationship. The divorce courts are full of people unable to committ to others. 'Do or do not, there is not try"
2006-10-03 06:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not say the 2nd paragraph to her it sounds all wrong. be honest with her. do not propose to her. tell her u have some kind of feelings for her an they r more than just friends. but u r not really sure because u have been friends an u don't want to lose her that way. ask her what she thinks an take it from there. there is nothing wrong with wanting some thing with ur best friend. u never know it might be the best thing u ever do. just tell her lets hang out an see where things go. but no matter what u do not want to lose her as a friend. be honest is the best thing learn how to talk to ur mate that is the only way u will last in a relationship.
2006-10-03 06:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no sex involved, why can't you two just be friends. If you hang out now, a non sexual relationship is no different. Putting myself in her shoes, I would think your was strange. Your reasons are wrong. You wanting to see how far you can go is a ridiculous reason to get involved with someone. If you like the girl, why can't you be in a serious relationship? There really is nothing you can say to make the situation make sense. Either you want to be her or you don't.
I'm sure that once she realizes your reason for wanting a not so serious relationship, she'll pass on it. I don't know if the situation is friendship threatening but it certainly makes no sense. I would think twice about approaching this conversation with her.
2006-10-03 06:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't use the word "propose", sounds like marriage, so omit that. But ask her out on a date, but make it clear that you want to be platonic but you are still interested. Make sure you let her know that you would like to date other people as well. Make sure you let her know, hey, I'm interested, and want to get to know you better, but I'm still shopping around as well..
2006-10-03 06:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are expereincing is just normal - you like someone and just want to 'date' her. So date her and see where it goes. Just make sure not to lie to her. If she asks you about your intentions tell her that you don't know yet. If you are sure of her intentions as much as you are sure of yours then there is no point of hurting her. If she determined to get married and have children and you are not then do not waste her chances of getting what she wants by being with you and waiting.
Be a man
2006-10-03 06:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.... it's that simple
I'd just tell her... do u fancy going out with me some time
answer: yes
reply: like on a real date... you kno
answer: yeh
you say: I mean, if it doesn't work out... we can just go bak to being best mates rite?
I assure you tht this wil work fine - if she's your best mate - it will work out fine cos she'll kno you already n kno exactly where you're coming from.
2006-10-03 06:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Bella Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date and let her know up front that if you/her decide that you just want to be friends then that's ok. Be honest with her at the very beginning.
2006-10-03 06:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? You want to propose to a "friend".....so that you can have a "not so serious relationship"????? do you mean propose as in marriage? maybe i don't understand your problem, because it wasn't all that clear.....but if that is what you want to do, it doesn't make any sense!!!!!!
2006-10-03 06:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by ratpackluvr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your best friend... friends make the best lovers! Try asking her to a movie.... tell her that you want to just try a date out and see where things go.
2006-10-03 06:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have feelings for her, or you wouldn't be thinking about this. So, what it sounds like you want is to start dating. So tell her that. "What do you think about us dating?" "I want to take you out to dinner, how do you feel about going on a date with me?"
2006-10-03 06:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋