I mean.. now a days people feel spanking your child is considered child abuse then why shouldn't your parents (for those whose parents whipped them) be on trial? Were not talking about beating them with with objects, or hitting them in other places. We are simply talking about whipping them when they have done something wrong.
I see so many people are against it now a days. Why? It worked in the past why does it not work for you now?
This question is not intended to offend anyone. I am just curious.
2006-10-03 06:19:31 · 21 answers · asked by Keith Perry 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I just like to see other peoples views.
2006-10-03 06:20:32 · update #1
I was whipped several times, and I found that it helped me distinguish the right from the wrong. Its not like my parents beat me to a bloody pulp, they just smacked my butt a few times to get their point across that whatever it was that I had done was wrong. Why people think it is child abuse, who knows, but I honestly don't agree that parents should have to worry that disiplining their child will get them put in jail. Thats wrong!
2006-10-03 06:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by jm_radi2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay alot of people go all crazy when someone mentions a spanking, thing is people there is a difference between a spanking and a beating. To very different things!! I have friends and family that spank and some that are against it, but both sides have wonderful children and the ones that are adults now understand either. I myself was spanked, and those times I remember I damn well deserved it. My Son has gotten a couple spankings or a tap on the hand when he misbehaves, but anything that leaves a mark is abuse. Its more of a warning/I'm in charge when nothing else works.
I do not believe in using objects to spank with though, that is excessive for a person so small, open hand only, if a child has done something so bad as to deserve a "beating" professional help is a must here, for the parents and child. We are the adults and have the responsiblity to teach our kids disipline and right & wrong, we do not have the right to abuse or beat. Everyone no matter how old has human rights & freedoms.
As for the jail part, If as a child I had the guts to call on some of the hell that happened during "disipline" I would have called the cops!! There is a fine line between spanking and beating, one is disipline the other excessive violence towards a defenceless child!!
2006-10-03 08:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was accepted by our society in the past and it isn't accepted now. Things change, sometimes for the better, sometimes not.
One big reason not to hit is that it can get you in trouble. Teachers etc are required to report social services issues. All you child has to do is mention that he was whipped in school and you will have a problem on your hand. The other biological parent can file for custody claiming physical child abuse.
2006-10-03 06:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think whipping should always be last resort. It does, in a way, show your loss of control. However, sometimes it is just necessary.
I got my as$ beat quite often. I turned into quite the respectful young adult and I am quite a respectful adult now. The down side? Somtimes I use physical means to get out my own aggression (I've been known to throw a shoe, kick a wall, break a cell phone - never towards other people of course).
2006-10-03 06:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with the odd carefully measured smack. I had plenty as a child because I was like I am now - naughty!
Had my parents simply sat me down to explain my errors I would have simply carried on. I did anyway a couple of days after a smack, but always mindful that it may bring retribution - and invariably it did!
Never did me any harm, but that is because it was administered for wrongdoing, rather than for simply crying.
And you know what? When I had been particularly naughty and my Dad came into the bedroom, I expected to have my backside felt. Sometimes he simply sat and told me off and because I had been spared corporal punishment I remember those occasions to this day.
The physical punishment I have long forgotten.
2006-10-03 06:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised in a country where whipping a kid was as normal as breathing and kids were raised to be responsible adults, respectful of their families and with strong values. In the USA if you whip a kid the kid can call the police on you (that is ridiculous to me) and it's clear to the eye how many rebellious kids turn into dirtbags, college dropouts, etc. when they grow up. I don't think whipping a kid is the best way to correct them but when you raise a kid that knows he can defy your authority and do whatever he wants because if you pinch him he can call the police is definitely a hard job. I have heard from family members of kids raised in the USA (cousins, nieces, etc.) that called the police on their parents and lied to the police saying the were abused. My mom whipped me a few times growing up and I surely deserved every one but I don't want to do that to my kids...unless they do something terrible...lol
2006-10-03 06:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Vi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is defined as slapping with palm of hand on rear end. That is not child abuse unless it's done too often or leaves marks. Whipping is child abuse according to the law. Whipping is using a whip and thats sick.
2006-10-03 06:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Spank that child's butt! You're not spanking a child to intentional hurt them or cause them harm, therefore it is not abuse. Abuse is when someoen is causing someone harm and pain. I agree that some standards and limits need to be set because of the extremeties that people take against their children. Unfortunately it hinders those whose purpose is to teach and punish their children for poor behavior. Because so many parents are afraid to punish their children because of CPS we now have extremely mal-behaviored children. Spank you're child!
2006-10-03 06:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand who's place it ever was to decide for us parents HOW we should/should not discipline our own children. It's ludicris! I got my a.ss whipped on a regular basis, and by God I respected my parents. I did what they said, and that's just how it was. Now, not enough kids get whippings, that's what's wrong with this generation. Too much free time, not enough disciplinary action. It's all coming to an end...this is the beginning of it.
2006-10-03 06:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a bunch of liberals that are saying this stuff.
Parents should be able to punish their kids however they want, and that includes spanking them.
Spanking is not child abuse, it is just teaching the kids what they are doing is wrong.
I agree with you 100% on everything you said.
2006-10-03 06:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋