A fellow is single and wealthy. He finds it hard to date, because he cannot determine if the women are after him or his money. So, he rents an average apartment and gets an average car (Honda Civic) in addition to his house and other cars. He uses these items to "live" in when he is meeting/getting to know a girl so that he can find assurance if she is interested in him alone. He doesn't tell the girls that he is wealthy at any time.
He is looking for "Mrs. Right", but needs to know she isn't wanting him for just his cash. He fully intends on telling the right woman everything once he asks her to marry him.
Is he wrong? Is he right?
2006-10-03 06:14:07 · 35 answers · asked by Robert 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please explain your answers.
2006-10-03 06:15:17 · update #1
No....LOL...this is NOT me.
Funny though!
2006-10-03 06:24:55 · update #2
why don't you (I mean him) live like that anyway? there's nothing wrong with living beneath your means until you're ready to have a family when you plan to have one soon anyway... then it would be the truth instead of a half-truth. just don't buy greedy girls anything and if they stick around, they like you (er, him)....
wanna go out on a date? LOL
2006-10-03 06:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Though it's not a very honest way to begin a relationship, I think anyone could understand why a wealthy person would want to do that. However, it could backfire. What if Mr. Right finds Ms. Right and, after determining that she can be trusted, he springs the truth on her... perhaps she is now disgusted that he didn't trust her enough to be honest about himself.
Or hey, she might just love him that much more because he was already a great guy, and now she has the added bonus of marrying a rich man! I personally don't think I would fall out of love with someone just because I found at he was wealthy. That would be nuts. I'm quite sure that if I would have found out my husband was a millionaire before I married him, that would NOT have diminished his appeal. LoL
2006-10-03 06:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by marys2boys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I can understand the gentleman's concerns over being liked for his money, any relationship he has begins with a lie. What type of foundation can that be? He can be wealthy, and simply not broadcast it. But to rent an apartment, buy a car, for the express purpose of deceit is wrong. Of course, I've never had the type of funds that would allow me to have multiple homes and multiple vehicles like this. That type of wealth may need a prenup, etc. There are many pitfalls to either stance. I just wouldn't want to be in a relationship that began with a lie. Good luck to you.
2006-10-03 06:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to be honest and upfront with her from the beginning. Some women are shallow enough to date a man for his money but if you plan on telling her before you ask her to marry you then at this point you will have been dating for a while. Relationships are too hard to do it just for the money. If you take your time with the woman then i think you can find Mrs. Right and still honest with her. Besides if she finds out you have been lying a ll along you might lose her anyway.
2006-10-03 06:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by jess 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea. A bit troublesome to have to maintain two houses and multiple cars... but otherwise, a wise choice. It is true that many women will date someone because he's rich. Even nice "good girls" will be tempted.
You are NOT being dishonest in any way, because you don't owe it to anyone to tell them right off the bat, "Hey, I'm rich."
Truthfully, how much money you make is no one's business but your own.
Good luck finding "Mrs. Right"!
2006-10-03 06:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is wrong because he's lying to the person right from the start. That's not a good way to start a relationship. He will never find mrs. right that way. If the lady is after the money, he should be able to tell.
2006-10-03 06:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad idea but it's a little involved and it could backfire on him. What if during the dating period Ms Right decides that he is hiding something from her? She finds out that he has another home. She might come to the conclusion that he has another life, maybe even a wife.
If he is willing to take that risk then I would suggest that he tells the woman the truth before he asks her to marry him..
2006-10-03 06:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 19:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, im just a 14 year old girl but i see what you mean. i often have dreams of growing up and wanting a big job with the big money but then i think to myself, would the guy really love me or my money. You have a good point and i would play it out that you have an average life and when you think that she really loves you then you can tell her the true you and tell her why you waited...if she really loves you she'll understand!!!! Good luck, i finding Mrs. Right
2006-10-03 06:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by unsure_lost_confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no..its not a good idea.he might find the right girl through these games but she will leave him once she finds out the truth. cause what the guy is doing is being dishonest..he will lie to her to get her.so the right girl will never trust him and leave. my suggestion is there are other ways of telling if the woman is after his money. tell her that you donot believe in luxary and live a simple life. she will run like hell.
2006-10-03 06:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by atahsina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say wrong because it is deceiving.there are other ways to be sure she isn't in it for money only. go dutch on everything.or one meal you pay next time is her turn.don't talk about money and it wont become the soul purpose of your relationship.
don't buy her things all the time.do not pay her bills for her.
You would be surprised at how many woman don't care about the money. It is more of a connection and soul mate they are looking for.
Don't be ashamed to have money just don't flaunt it if you know she doesn't have the same income as you.Make sure you have a pre-nup just to be on safe side.With that gold digger or not you'll find out.If she refuses to sign pre-nup..... there's your ahaa moment.
gl to you.
2006-10-03 06:21:19 · answer #11 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋