I live in PA, and with all the school shootings going on lately, my 10 year old daughter is kind of freaked out about going to school. What can I tell her to make her feel better? She is so afraid that someone is going to come to her school. Please no smart *** answers.
2006-10-03 06:02:17 · 12 answers · asked by troxy12 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first off, I think MOST kids are getting edgy and scared. My heart goes out to those who have lost. Schools should be for education, not settling scores. But, to make your daughter feel better. Sit down and discuss what it is EXACTLY she's scared over. Is it just the idea that it could happen there or is there some underlying issue like she's being bullied by someone in school or knows of some folks that are "questionable" in nature at her school? I would also speak with her school mates parents if you know them as well as possibly speak to the administrators of the school (make an appointment-don't just walk in, then you have undivided attention to address your daughter's issues and concerns as well as your own). We have a GREAT law enforcement community here where I live in VA and they are ALWAYS accomedating to speak with kids and to try and set their fears at rest.
My son is a worrier, even at his cool dude age of 12. he feels concern for everything going on in the world as wethings he cannot control. Fear of the "GREAT UNKNOWN" is always on the tops of the list of children/teens...even adults so we have to reinforce that we cannot control or stop every bad deed but we can be mindful, aware, knowledgeable enough to spot things that are not "kosher" and need to be addressed to officials. If she still seems "freaked", let her talk to a youth group or councelor that specializes in youth. Good luck!
2006-10-03 07:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my oppinion your daughter has some valid fears. When Amish school children get shot up, how can any child feel safe at school. I imagine this incident will increase the number of children being homeschooled. Perhaps talking about her escape plan from school if an incident should occur at her school will make her feel better.
2006-10-03 06:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that it's perfectly okay to be afraid, but that you can't let your fear rule your life or you'll never get to really live life to its fullest. Make sure that she knows that you love her and understand her fears and don't look down on her for them.
You might want to get her a prepaid cell phone to give her a sense of security. After Columbine my aunt did this for her daughter, who was terrified, and it really helped her a lot to feel safe again, knowing that she could call her Mom if The Bad Guys came to her school.
2006-10-03 06:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. My 8 year old son was getting ready for bed and started crying last night and saying he was scared that some stranger was going to find us and shoot us. Nothing I could say made him feel better. Maybe if you took her to school and picked her up from school for a few days or even volunteered in class for a few hours a day.
2006-10-03 06:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw this today. It may be helpful to you. If you go to this site and scroll down to the second video box on the right. The second to last bullet point is called -How to talk to your kids about shootings- Check it out. Good Luck!
http://msnbc.msn.com/id/15113706/?GT1=8618
2006-10-03 06:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're supposed to be sheltering your daughter from upsetting news coverage of things like this. Turn the tv off and don't let her watch the news. For what she already knows, you can tell her the reality of the situation- and that is she probably has a better chance of being hit by lightening than being shot at school. Tell her that these are very isolated situations and her school is safe and it won't happen to her.
2006-10-03 06:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by LAS 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i understand where she is coming from. BUT really what can you say? We hope are kids are safe, but honestly how do we know. My sons school is locked all the time. BUT all you have to do to get in is ring a bell and say your there to pick up your kid and they let you in. None od us are really safe. we live in a crazy as& world!
2006-10-03 06:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever considered home schooling
i understand you may not be able to give up your day job
but do you know someone who does it...
you may be able to find a way
if she is scared that says something really bad is going on
i would not make her go to school--id find a home schooler personal tutor-something
it would be terrible if you know what ever happened to her
2006-10-03 06:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame her. Tell her with all that has happened they have tightened security at her school. ( It wouln't hurt to call the school either ) Hopefully you can ease her tension a little bit.
2006-10-03 06:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a book out there about fear and children. Seek it out. Or professional help.
2006-10-03 06:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋