I am worried about my fiance's 8 year old niece. I'm not living with her yet. Her sister and niece live with her for the time being. I'm very concerned about her niece, after a recent conversation with her. My sister-in-law is a 24 year old "career bartender" (c o k e s l u t), and doesn't know who her daughter's father is. She married a guy when she was 18 and he accpeted the little girl as his own, but she cheated on him and they divorced. The little girl calls that guy dad - and he tried to get custody of her with no success. My fiance let them move in with her, for the sake of the niece... but it's not working, because the sister is pretty worthless and disrespectful. Now, my fiance and I are getting married, and expecting a little boy in Feb. So the sister has to move out. I'm afraid of what will happen to the little girl, but need to focus my energy and resources on MY new family. The little girl is well on her way to becoming just like her mom. And it breaks my heart!!! :(
2006-10-03 05:43:55 · 6 answers · asked by Jon M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you thought about talking to your fiance about having the little girl stay with you guys? Maybe have him sit down and have a heart to heart with his sister. His sister needs someone to tell her the truth and be honest with her about the path she is taking her daughter down. Maybe if your fiance talks to her and he tells it to her straight and also lets her know that he'd like to give her daughter a stable home, she'll go for it.
2006-10-03 05:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be so awesome of you, to take in the little girl, give her a chance to a new and better life. I know it is a big thing to do, a huge responsibility being that you have a baby on the way as well, but I think this little girl deserves a real family, and you guys are the one to give it to her. Think about it.
2006-10-03 05:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks such as you harm her thoughts once you didnt get portion of her relatives, step or otherwise they're nonetheless her toddlers, christmas presents, and he or she is paying you back the kindness. Can cope with this 2 strategies.. one million. wish she gets over it and realizes that 2 wrongs dont make a very good, and that lacking her brpthers wedding ceremony may well be a foul undertaking. or 2. Get the youngsters presents, tell them which you have been protecting directly to them so which you may provide them in individual, and notice if this doesnt make certain the subject. stable luck
2016-10-01 21:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be concerned. Contact the Department of Human Resources and report the situation.
YOUR family must come first. Get the focus on your wife and baby. Good luck.
2006-10-03 05:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very nice if you COULD bring this child into your home and raised her...notice, could is capped. That's IF you wanted to assume that kind of responsiblity AND the mother allowed it and you could afford it if she suddenly decided to run off. At the VERY least, you could ask the sister in law to be, to allow you all to spend weekends or a couple evenings a week with the child and I see no reason why you couldn't stop by the school, have lunch with her or take her to the movies, shopping, mall window shopping, the library, etc. Children need positive role models in their world...to influence them, guide them, help to them to model the good, positive actions they see and to have them grow up healthy, mentally and physically. Good luck!
2006-10-03 06:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough situation you're in, but like you said. you have to worry about you and your new family. have you tried talking to your fiance? maybe she can get through to her sister? where are they going to live when they move out? do you really thin kthey are going to move out??
2006-10-03 06:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋