I have been living common law with my better half for nearly 16 years . In that time my husbands brothers and their wives have had kids and it is only family members that have a wedding liscence that are called aunty .I am called just by my first name and this really hurts. Does anyone else out there have the same problem.
2006-10-03 05:41:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HI!
Then I think as adults, your mate should taslk to them and to his family and tell them he wants the respect shown to you also!!! ok Auntie!!!
2006-10-03 05:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well what makes you a real aunt differs by family standards. Many families value the sanctity of marriage and the importance of the legal and biblical commitment to their significant other and that person's family. These families want there kids to also grow up with the same understanding of these values. So it makes sense that they don't want their kids confused by your decisions to not make those same committments.
But titles are nothing more than words before your name. What is important should be the impact and involvement you have with the kids. You can act like you are their aunt and be a good adult family member to them, without the title.
2006-10-03 12:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by louser777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have that probelm, but that is really crappy on there part. I mean after 16 years you are common law partners. so if you seperated you have all the rights of married people. they should call you aunt. at this point i would think it is a little late for them to call you something different.
2006-10-03 13:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides on this one. If you want the benefits of being family, you should get married. Then again, you have been with him for a long time and are prolly not going anywhere anytime soon. You should discuss this with these people and tell them how much it bothers you.
2006-10-03 12:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are as much an aunt to those kids than anyone else! How hurtful to be excluded like that. I'm sorry I'm not in a similar situation to relate, but I certainly feel for you. I am an aunt to 12 children, whom I love dearly. To think that my husband or myself would be denied such titles because we weren't married...... I don't even know what to say.
2006-10-03 12:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your brother or sisters child.
2006-10-03 12:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by jokedrugs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋