boyfriend cheated. i always thought we'd get married. he promised me forever. now hes gone. i still love him. theres no other guys in my life. i dont know how to deal with this. please help
2006-10-03 05:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by curiousandhopefulsearchinglife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to a close friend or family member. Find an activity that you enjoy doing and go have a good time with some other people. It will take a while for you to forget about someone who was important to you, but one of the most important things is to not obsess about him. You need to move on with life, this doesn't mean you have to get out into the dating world right away, just get out into the world.
2006-10-03 05:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first relationship??? Because if the answer is yes, let me tell you this is probably only the first one of a few breakups before you find The One. You say you still love him but maybe you don't, you need to meet different men, date other people, see what it feels like to be with someone else and then compare so that you can know what love feels like. Love it's not only about the way you feel for someone but the way that other person makes you feel with his actions, not just his words and promises. Get up and out, don't think about him. If it really was meant to be you will be with him again though to be sincere, if he cheated on you, he does not deserves your love.
2006-10-03 12:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Vi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't move on unless you allow yourself to.
You have to realize that what is in the past, is just that, in the past. He made a decision about your relationship, and it wasn't toward the commitment that he promised.
Try to remember that he is also human...and that at least you were able to realize that he is not committed before the two of you got married.
You will definitely not be able to shut your feelings off from one second to the next...it will however lessen through time.
Try to get more involved with family, friends or different activities...go on a trip,...
It will take as long as it can to move on,until you can fully let go. Keep in mind, he made his decision, and moved on...do you want to keep hurting or also move on.
2006-10-03 12:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still want him? Or did you broke it off because he cheated. You say you still love him, can you forgive and forget what he did?
You should ask yourself, is he sorry for what he did, or not. An, does he love you, or were you just another girl for him.
Look inside your heart. Sometimes your mind tells you what to do, but the heart stays unsettled. You should listen to both, not only one of them.
Find out what you really want, and then you'll get to move on.
2006-10-03 12:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation but im a guy and my ***** cheated on me. she told me she was pregnant when she found out i knew she was cheating just to get me all hyped up. It was all a lie and it only happened a few days ago. i hate her now. i feel so empty cause of her but ill move on. ull find someone who will be honest to u girl just dont give up
2006-10-03 12:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by C.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow yourself the time to heal from the broken relationship before you start to date. I know it hurts now and it will for awhile, time will ease your pain and make you whole again. And, you will find someone that is right for you. Dont rush yourself. Good luck and take care
2006-10-03 12:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me...i would cry for wks and i didn't eat for like 4 dayz...i didn't kno how i could handle it finally i got up and said you kno what he don't deserve me went out after like 5 mon...i started dating again...suck it up...
2006-10-03 12:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by M<3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey go out and have fun marriage with someone that will cheat on you is not worth it, spend time on your self and make him jelous
2006-10-03 12:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by linsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come back after a year and every thing will be good.
2006-10-03 12:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Atique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU JUST HAVE TOO TRY GOING TO A PLACE THAT CLAM YOU DOWN LIKE A BEACH OR LAKE
2006-10-03 12:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋