My friend's mother is making a big deal about her not being married by a "man of God". They're using someone who is an ordained minister but does not "preach" in a church. Do you think the mother and father (who are paying for the wedding) have a say? The wedding is outside.
2006-10-03 05:36:19 · 15 answers · asked by Melissa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am ordained by a Christian church. I am also licensed by my state, which is a required here but not necessarily in other states.
I am a female "man of God". I am THE authority through which God unites people. I do not currently have a home church of my own.
Alot of denominational ministers cannot marry a couple if the couple does not adhere to their rules & rites. And some are not permitted to marry a couple elsewhere other than in a church.
These parents ought to be grateful their children are willing to make this lifetime commitment to each other.
Let the parents tell the minister he ISN'T a "man of God".
2006-10-03 05:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is why you should pay for your own wedding.....
When ever you take money from someone- a whole lot of other stuff comes with it. Yes, I do think her mother should have some say, I would be pissed if I was her mom, shelling out all this cash and she wasn't listening to me.
It's not like wedding cost $20... were talking a $20,000 here!!
2006-10-03 15:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in december and going through the same issue. What we told family is the day is about us being married and wanting to spend the rest of our lives together not what they want. We are also using an ordained minister who formerly has no church. The fact of the matter is that they have to do what they think is right and be happy in themselves and not what the parrents want.
2006-10-03 12:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cameron T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ministers are ordained to make marriages. They have the same power. This minister may be more righteous than the preacher. PLEASE READ
The parents have a say because they have the money-sounds a bit selfish. The parties involve should meet and talk about it. They should let d couples do what they are happy with as that is d beginning of a happy marriage-a memorable occassion. They are now adults. There parents should not dictate. Let their parents make them happy.
I wish them well
2006-10-03 12:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by kinny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do the parents have a say if they are paying for the wedding. Yes they do. Do they have ultimate control and veto power? No, they do not.
Everyone involved needs to sit down and have an open, honest heart-to-heart discussion where everyone has a chance to speak and everyone else listens respectfully.
2006-10-03 13:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be up to the couple. If they are not religious, there's no reason to have a religious-oriented wedding.
But then, of course, the paying party has the leverage. This is why we paid for our own wedding!
2006-10-03 14:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No say. Just because they're paying doesn't mean they can control it. Unless they said something like "we will pay for your wedding if you are married by a man of God" then it doesn't work.
2006-10-03 14:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can get preachers to come to an outside wedding. my aunt and uncle had one come to their wedding on the beach. my uncle isn't religious, but my aunt is. if her parents are willing to pay to fly out a real preacher, then she should let them do it. it's just one part of the wedding. unless the minister they want to use is a family friend, it shouldn't be a problem.
2006-10-03 12:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by answer away 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a mather says: "Do not", she knows what is the best for her daughter. So, tell your friend to think about what her mother is saying.
Here in Brazil, we respect our mother's opinion, even if we think it doesn´t seems to be fine. Our mother is our great treasure.
The bible says that we have to honour our parents to have a long life.
Sorry but my english is not good. I just tryied to help you.
2006-10-03 13:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would it kill people to compromise with family tradition? Why is it that most people (I'm looking at you brides) are more obsessed with the wedding not the marriage. It's my day! I want it my way! Holy crap! It's probably the first of many marrages, I'm sure it doesn't even matter. If you can't compromise with the people who gave you life, what chance does your husband have?
2006-10-03 12:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋