If you undertand wher I am coming from please a comment:
Okay so it's like this, I was in love with my ex. The only guy that I have ever loved and to this day I still love him. But I want to let him go for good but I can't. I know we can't work I have tried and I know that there is nothing in the world that can keep us together. I don't even really want to be with him (relationship). But the thing is I can't be with anyone else. As painful as this relationship has been I can forget about it. Even though I has been through hell and back with that damn boy, I know at the end of the day that I am safe with him. He would never do anything to hurt me on purpose. (on purpose is the key word because he has hurt me more then he'll ever know). I have all these other wonderful guys who wanna date me but I just can't because I am not fully over my ex yet. It crazy, we don't even talk anymore, but I see him everyday and I just can't let go!!! I just want it to be over. I have tried eveything!
2006-10-03 05:34:06 · 16 answers · asked by :Dazed and Confused: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you work with him?? GET ANOTHER JOB..getting over him will never happen if you are forced to be in his presence everyday...that just brings the past forward...not seeing him everyday is the first step to a long, lonely, and sometimes painful recovery...good luck
2006-10-03 05:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is in your question....you see him everyday! The best way I have got over someone that I am completly buggin over is by not seeing them. It is hard in the beginning but once you get use to not seeing their face you know you can live without them. When you see someone all the time it is a constant reminder of them and the way you feel. Some people feel that loneliness inside and just accept the way they are treated because they do not want to have to start from scratch with a new relationship. I am in a similar situation ...I have been with someone for 6 years and he has hurt me so much I can no longer take it.....So i have stopped seeing him and just started getting out more...I met this guy now who treats me a million times better and I am head over heals for him...So there is always someone better ...who will respect you and care for you the way you want....Take a break girl and move on!
2006-10-03 05:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Micah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You havent tried everything. I think you should date other guys. Just because you go out on a date doesnt mean it has to be a relationship. I mean, just go out and have fun. Realize that there is more to this world than the guy you are stuck on. And who says you even have to date other guys? Stay alone for a while and just spend time with friends. We dont need a man in our life to be complete. Go out and enjoy your life, because staying at home thinking about it will only make the pain last that much longer.
2006-10-03 05:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are one of those women who likes the tough life with a guy, you get your kicks out of it. You probably like drama, it's the only interesting thing in your life. You were not in a healthy relationship with him, so why even bother loving him, don't you stop and think about the horrible things he has done to you as you say he has, because from my understanding, reminising on the bad times helps on move on, you must be stuch on the very few times he made you happy. If you wanted to, you would go through hell and back with YOURSELF doing the possible and impossible to forget about him. It sounds like you deserve better, and you don't need to fall in love with someone right away, but you need to start getting to know what else is out there.
2006-10-03 05:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. it's been three years, and still a song or a scent or hell anything will remind me of my ex, and suddenly i'm in tears. someone that you truly love will never be out of your heart. but if you are certain (as i am about my ex) that it will never work out, then the only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. and try to figure out this: do you love the person he is now, or do you love the memory of the person he was when you were together? that's a big eye-opener. decide which person you still love..... and then you will know if you should move on or try to make it work. good luck :)
2006-10-03 05:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is slightly cowardly of you not to let him go. He's safe.....like a fuzzy old pair of slippers or your "comfort clothes". But is he GOOD for YOU????
You know the answer is, 'NO". Stop telling yourself that you can't do it because you sooooo CAN.
Does he nurture your soul with his love? Is his love true and unpretentious?
I have been where you are. I know what you are going through and what you are doing to yourself is toxic. You are stunting your emotional and spiritual growth. And you know you deserve better. So why not stop being afraid and just do it?
Is that how you wanna live your life- afraid to do what is in your own best interest? Something in you thinks you deserve that cycle. I am here to tell you that you deserve so, so much more.
Dump him and free yourself. Sometimes we must let go of our comfort zone. That is how we experience true freedom and personal growth. This is how life test us and how we become more courageous, which will transcend in other areas of your life (i.e. career, relationships, etc.)
Hope this helps and good luck to you! Free yourself!! I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 05:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be hard no matter what, but the best thing you can do is stay away from him. It will take time, but you'll be amazed at how much easier things will get and how much happier you will be when he isn't a constant part of your life. Don't date other people right away, work on make yourself happy first.
2006-10-03 05:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this last year. I come to realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. Oh, what I would do to have it all back. Sounds like you have something to work with. I wouldn't give up quit yet. make sure you think it through before making any rational decisions.
2006-10-03 05:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW FIRST LOVE, I'M STILL WONDERING ABOUT MY X 30 YEARS AGO. WITH TIME IT GETS EASIER. BUT YOU NEVER FORGET. TRY TO MOVE ON SOME HOW. I JOINED THE NAVY AND MOVED TO A DIFFERENT STATE TO GET DISTANCE, I BET WE'D MAKE A GREAT COUPLE TODAY. I BET YOUR STILL IN SCHOOL SO TRY COUNSELING IF YOU FIND A GOOD CONCILIAR OR FRIEND OR RELATIVE TO CRY TO GO FOR IT IT WILL HELP. BUT GET THE SELF PITTY DONE WITH, STAY SMART AND IN GOOD SHAPE TO KEEP HIS EYE'S ON YOU MAYBE IN YEARS YOU'LL FIND IT HAPPEN AGAIN.
STAY HAPPY.
2006-10-03 05:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by hazegrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let go because you still love him. It sounds like he loves you also. You have to decide if you go through bad times with him than to be without him.
2006-10-03 05:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by pinkeydots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋